(Closed) Bridal Shower question

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
7234 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@katmarmat:  I don’t think a shower is the same as a graduation or wedding. At those big events, I would send a gift even if I couldn’t attend. However, for a shower I think most people would bring a gift only if they were able to attend. I think you’re fine to invite everyone if that’s what you want to do and you do not need to include a note. (In fact, I think including a note about gifts at all could backfire and seem greedy in itself. Like “If you’re not coming don’t feel obligated to send a gift… but if you are coming you best be loaded down!” ya know?)

Post # 4
2954 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@katmarmat:  I’d still invite everyone and leave it up to them if they choose to come. I’ve had my feelings hurt on several occasions were I have not been invited and I would have gone. Save the chance of hurting anyone’s feelings. 

Post # 6
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would do it differently actually. I think it is a bit gift grabby to invite people to a party thats sole purpose is to give gifts when in all liklihood they couldnt come.


However, if you are close to some people that are distant then I would invite them. If its only your fiance’s cousin, then skip the invite.

Post # 7
8533 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i am not inviting every female invited to my wedding. i gave my list to my Maid/Matron of Honor who is planning it.  the list has all female family members from both sides, all my female friends, and the female friends on his side that i am friends with.

as far as gifts, the point of a shower is gifts.  if someone cannot attend because of travel, they can decide for themselves if they want to send a gift or not.

invite who you want there and then the guest should decide if they want to go or not.


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