Post # 1
I know RSVPing to a shower isn’t that big a deal, but I’m a little annoyed. I sent out the invitations 3 weeks ago. The RSVP deadline is in two days. Guess how many people have RSVPed out of 25?
3. Two yeses and a no. One of them is the bride’s mother. Out of 25.
My friend is in a panic, texting me every day asking if anyone else has called (though I’ve told her to stay calm and let me handle it). Apparently four people have told her they’re coming and (this is the kicker) ASKED HER WHAT “RSVP” MEANT! I had put “RSVP to Dizbee at *phone number* by *date*, is it really that hard to figure it out?” She told them it meant to call me and tell me they’re coming. That was weeks ago and I’ve yet to hear back from them, so they’re still in limbo as far as my headcount is concerned.
I know it’s not nearly as big an expense as a wedding, but I’m pissed. I still have to get food and order a cake of a certain size and I need to know how many people I’ll be feeding! Plus this has been stressing my friend out like crazy and the whole point of me hosting a shower was to take that stress off her. Geez people.
That said, the bride wants to start badgering people for RSVPs. I don’t know any of their phone numbers, just the addresses she gave me. What do I do? Let her call and badger them, get her to give me their numbers so I can call and badger them, or just assume the four mysterious yeses, the two that actually RSVPed to me, and any other RSVPs that come in between now and when I order the food (which will be early next week at the latest) are the only ones that are coming and plan accordingly?
Post # 3
@Dizbee: I say ask her for phone numbers and wait 2 more days until the RSVP date is past.
Once the date has passed, call the laggers.
Post # 4
My second bridal shower is this weekend and sadly my Maid/Matron of Honor is still trying to get a few ladies to confirm. I just don’t understand why people just can’t RSVP!
Don’t make this the bride’s responsibility, you should do the follow up once the date has passed.
Post # 5
Ask her for the phone numbers, but wait until the rsvp date has passed befor you start phoning.
ps let’s all make a pact to teach our children good manners- and that includes what rsvp means.
Post # 6
She actually said she’s changing the wording on her RSVP cards to “please return to reserve your seat” or something like that to accomodate those who don’t know what RSVP means. I’ve never heard of anyone who didn’t know what RSVP meant before now…
Post # 7
Alot of people wait until the last day, or use that as a return-by/postmark date for rsvp’s. I have been guilty of rsvp’ing at 11:39 on the date (had to wait to find out my work schedule, then a few other arrangements).
Post # 8
@kerensa: Yeah, I’m holding out hope that’s what it is. Much as I’m dreading an avalanche of 20 calls from strangers on one day, I’d much rather do that than have to chase them all down. But I will if necessary, I want her to have a good turn out for the shower.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Ha- my Maid/Matron of Honor just emailed me today to get email/phone #s for all the non-rsvps. Of the list, 75% are married women…you’d think THEY would know better!
Post # 10
That’s annoying! I know my shower invites went out last week and I’m stressed thinking about people not responding- I won’t know who has responded (SIL or my mom will) but I don’t want them to have to track down people for a response. How do people not RSVP?? I don’t get it.