Post # 1
It’s my first post!
I recently had my bridal shower and decided that I would provide all the favors for my guests as a way to say thanks to all my guests. Most of the showers (and weddings) I’ve attended did not send any thank you notes so I’m unsure of the proper etiquette. I spent a few dollars on each favor to show my appreciation and handwrote a thank you on all the tags. Do you guys think that the favors were enough in terms of thanks or should I still send thank you cards?
Post # 3
Welcome to the ‘Bee!
Yes, I think you should send a thank you note for the gifts you received. The favor was a thank you for attending your shower. If your guests also gave you gifts, you should send a note thanking them specifically for their gift.
Post # 4
I was brought up to send a written thank you note for all gifts received on any occasion.
No surprise then that i think you should send thank you notes.
Post # 5
@SoSoInLove: Absolutely you should send Thank You notes. Your favours were a thank you for attending your function, not for their gift.
Send each gift giver a short note telling them how lovely their gift is, how you plan to use it, and how much you are looking forward to seeing them at the wedding. It doesn’t have to be very long, just long enough to be personal, grateful, and sweet.
It so so lovely to see you at Betsy’s house for the shower. Yellow really is a great colour on you. That hat was fantastic.
I just wanted to say thank you so very much for the pasta fork, and cheese grater. Francois is so excited for me to make him my famous parmasean, and garlic pasta.
We can’t wait to celebrate with you at the wedding.
See you soon,
Post # 6
I agree with PPs. A nice little note thanking them for their specific gift/card is much appreciated. Like @andielovesj: said, it’s pretty easy to write up. “Dear X, It was so great to see you at the shower. Thanks for the X. I can’t wait to use it X way. We’re looking forward to seeing you at the wedding. Love, SSIL”
Believe me, writing TYs can be annoying, but people REALLY appreciate them for the most part. I know that a few people have told my mom already how lovely it was to get a handwritten thank you from our wedding, and that they’ve put it on the fridge!? Haha.
Welcome to the hive! Happy planning 🙂
Post # 7
It’s really nice that you gave each guest a custom thank you like that, however I still think you need to send a thank you card for each gift you recieved.
Post # 8
I’d probably still send a thank you.
Post # 9
Thanks for all your responses! Just purchased thank you cards. (:
I’m Asian American, and so are most of my friends. I haven’t received many thank yous in the past as I think it is not in our culture to send them, but since showers are an American custom, I wanted to make sure I did it right!
Post # 10
Not only are we providing favors for the guest (or so I’ve heard…) but I am personally purchasing nice little ‘thank you’ bags for each hostess and a hanging plant “thank you” for my mother.
In addition, I will aboslutely hand-write a thank you note for each and every gift I receive, and have received since the beginning of our engagement.
Post # 11
Get some cute and cheap thank you cards at Target and send them to all of your guests. You want to show them how much you appreciate their gift and their presence. 🙂