Post # 1
This is possibly a dumb question, but I’ll ask anyway…
When writing thank you cards for gifts received at your bridal shower, did you address the card to the couple/family, or just to the person who came to the shower (in my case, just the wives/girlfriends)? Also, did you sign both yours and your Fi’s name, or just yours to the card?
Finally, do you think anyone cares about or even notices these things?
Post # 3
I just addressed mine to the person who came to the shower, partly because I thanked them specifically for being there. I think it’s understood that your gratitude extends to all parties involved.
Post # 4
I sent the thank you just to the person that came and I addressed it just from myself. I think only the older guests will even notice and I have no idea if the way i did it was correct etiquette.
Post # 5
When there’s a card attached to the gift, sometimes it’s from a couple of people who may not have been able to be there physically but gave the gift to someone who was able to attend. I usually see brides asdress the card to the attendee and if it was a family gift, thank them for the generous gift.
If it was an all female shower, perhaps it’s okay to just sign your name.
Post # 6
I would double check the cards that accompanied the gifts you received – if it was just from the female, send your thank you note to just the female. If it’s unclear who sent the gift, I would just thank the female.
Most shower gifts are given to "the bride" even though they are meant for the couple. So I think it would be fine to just sign your name.
Post # 8
I sent the thank you card to the name listed on the card accompanying the gift. I signed my thank you cards with mine and FI first names. I’m pretty sure that wasn’t proper, but I felt his name should be on the card since the gifts were for US. I chose not to put last names, just because it looked awkward. Though I did put it on a few for some of the elderly whom I felt might get confused by the first names.
Post # 9
Save all your cards and keep an eye on people who sign "Aunt Sue" or "Aunt Sue and Uncle Bob".
For the most part it will be just the person, and I don’t know about you ladies but when I get invited to a shower, my FI RARELY has input on what gift I select.