Post # 1
What is proper etiquette to send out bridal shower thank you notes
– Do I have to send them on really nice stationary, or will nice, more “from the bride” simple fold over blank cards with thank you on the outside (pink and flowers) enough?
– Do I have to send them before the wedding?
– Do I address them to the person who attended the shower, or if a couple, both?
– Do I only sign them as the bride, or does FH have to be included?
– I know the regular, thank you, we plan on using this item in such and such way applies – especially since most of the gifts are off our registry (seriously they almost bought out my entire target registry, and there was less than 20 people at the shower!)
– Any other etiquette suggestions appreciated!
Thanks – Im just crazy busy with the wedding & really want to make sure these go out accordingly!
Post # 3
I think cards are always nice. I custom ordered some from VistaPrint for cheap and they said “from soon-to-be-mrs” and then my new last name.
Yes, send them before the wedding. asap
If the gift is from the couple (ie i had a few gifts from Mr. and Mrs. X), respond to the couple. Typically a shower gift is from just the woman, so that is appropriate to address to just the lady.
Sign them as yourself, unelss the gift was to you and your FI (some of our gifts were to both of us). Typically a bridal shower gift is to the bride.
Post # 4
I used a combination of personalized cards that I had on hand and some store-bought “Thank You” cards for mine. I think the stationary is not nearly as important as actually writing them though. And I would sign them just from yourself, but maybe throw in a “FI and I plan on using” Or “FI and I absolutely love the …” so they know you both appreciate the gift. I addressed them to just the person at the shower. And yes, get them out before the wedding if it’s possible!
Post # 5
A simple card is perfectly fine- it’s the written note that counts!
You are supposed to send thank yous ASAP! Definitely before the wedding (after which you’ll probably have a second round of thank yous to write!).
I addressed the thank you to the people that were on the card. If it just said “Love, Aunt Sally” I thanked Aunt Sally. If it said, “Love, Jackie and John” I thanked both.
I also signed the thank you based on how the gift card was signed- some people wrote the card, “Dear Rosy and FI” and I would sign my name and have him sign his. If it was just a card to me, I just signed myself.
I think the only impolite thing to do is send some kind of typed form letter and just signing your name. The thank you is supposed to be hand written and personalized somehow (like you mentioned- how the gift will be used).