Post # 1
Would this be weird and too close? It sort of makes sense logistically since one of my bm is out of town. And so is anohter good friend. His family is out of state also, and half of mine. But would people be put off by giving a shower gift so close to the wedding? My bachlorette party is also the night before… So I’d be monopolizing practically the whole weekend. Help! Would you keep the shower the day before the wedding, or move it up?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t have the shower the day before mostly because I wouldn’t want people to feel like they had to buy me gifts two days in a row. Also, I was EXHAUSTED after my bridal shower. I couldn’t even imagine getting married the next day. Also, when would you have rehearsal? or are you not planning on having one?
Post # 4
I think I would move it up – It sounds like it would be too crazy to do it that day. Maybe even earlier in the week, and guests could possibly come in early? Or just do it several weeks before like normal and send an invite to everyone you would like to come, knowing that OOT guests prolly can’t make it.
Post # 5
@LGenz:yea, the plan would be to do a shower in the afternoon, end that, head to rehersal and dinner right after that.
@Jenlon: Yeah, that is the other option, do it earlier, and just know most oot people wont be there. Its arleady out of the question to bother to do it the week before and have guest come even earlier… everyone has their flights already.
Post # 6
If at all possible, I’d move it up.
Post # 7
It seems to be really close and you might have some last minute details to wrap up which could make you stressed. I would try and have it earlier if possible.
Post # 8
The day before is too close? Dont you have to do rehearsals or pick anything up or get nails or any last minute things? I wouldnt want have a shower the day before.
Post # 9
If you weren’t doing rehearsal or bachelorette the day before, I’d think it was a fine idea… BUT with that much going on, you and your guests will be exhausted. Plus that is a lot to ask of your guests financially. I would advise having a smaller shower a few weeks before the wedding, and just accept the fact that your out of town guests will just not be able to make it. It’s too bad that they are out of town, but unfortunately not everyone will be able to make it to everything, even when you make accomidations.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t do it. Showers are exhausting (being extra gracious takes energy!), you might need that day for last minute details and I would feel guilty asking guests to give a gift 2 days in a row.
Also–what kind of bachelor party are you planning the night before your wedding? Do something low key–you want to be well rested and not hung over for your wedding
Post # 11
I can’t say because I think mine will be too early, haha. It does seem a bit stressful to have it that close though, with everything else happening. Rehearsal dinner?
Post # 12
I had a friend who did her shower the day before her wedding b/c it’s the only time her mom could come. Like you said, it’s a bit much to bring a gift two days in a row. And personally I liked having different parties throughout the year to celebrate, it made it more exciting and gave me something to look forward to that wasn’t as far away as the wedding.
Post # 13
Don’t do it, it’ll probably put too much stress on you. There’s always little errands right before the wedding that you need time for, and attending another wedding event doens’t help. It’s not expected that OOT guests attend showers anyway, plus it does seem weird (maybe even gift grabby) to ask guests to attend a shower the day before.
Post # 14
i would try and move it up if you could – especially if you have the bachelorette party that night as well – i had my bridal luncheon the day before my wedding and rehearsal that night and i felt like i was running around like a crazy person in between gathering last minute things for the wedding – you want to give yourself as much free time as possible the last few days, you dont know what will pop up unexpectedly.
Post # 15
I was so busy with last-minute projects in the days leading up to my wedding that I would not have enjoyed myself at a shower the day before.
Also, if guests are making a weekend trip to attend your wedding, they may want some time to themselves. So many wedding events in quick succession is a bit much for guests, financially and otherwise.
Post # 16
If it were me I would move it up, because I wouldn’t want to know that I had a full day the day before the wedding. I am hoping to spend that day just pampering and tying up loose ends. I second the question about the type of bachelorette party you are having, just want you to be well rested!