Post # 1
Hi all, I need help. My FSIL offered to throw my bridal shower (so sweet! no issue there), then a co-worker of mine asked to throw my "work shower". Again, SO sweet! Now they both want lists and my co-worker is saying to invite everyone to both showers… Uh, what? I thought the work shower was just that. for work people only (and maybe my mom). I don’t know what to say to G (co-worker) about it. I don’t want people to feel like they are obligated to do both or get gifts for both or anything of the sort. So…how do I tell G that I thought it was just work peeps without hurting her feelings. I maybe be over-thinking this one. Oh, side note – I was going to originally have my work peeps at the shower FSIL is having, since I don’t have many female friends in the area that would be able to attend. Thoughts? Thanks ladies!
Post # 3
You are right, you should probably have the work bridal shower only be work people and your mom. Bridal party is ok too, just let them know not to bring gifts twice. I would just tell her that your FSIL already offered to throw a party for family and friends and you would love to have one with your coworkers and bridal party.
Post # 4
When is the work shower? Is it during work hours? After work? Weekend? I’m usually familiar with work showers being pretty work related during or near work hours. I would try to keep your work shower down to work people. (I think it’s not proper to invite people to more than one shower, with the exception of the bridal party and mothers.) I guess you could invite your BMs, but I’m not sure I would.
I also wouldn’t invite the work people to the FSIL shower. (Unless the work shower doesn’t happen.) Are you inviting all of these gals to the wedding? If not, then you definitely shouldn’t be inviting them to FSIL shower. The work shower would still be OK.
It sounds like both ladies are really itching to host a nice shower. By any chance, would it be feasible for them to join forces and throw one larger shower? It sounds like both might be rather intimate, and you’d like the coworkers at the FSIL shower anyway.