Post # 1
FI and I are planning on heading off to do some major international travel shortly after the wedding, and with my bridal shower coming up, I have NO idea what to ask for for gifts!
We haven’t registered anywhere yet, as there is nothing we need (we’ve already lived together for 4 years) – especially considering we’ll be selling off a lot of our stuff soon/putting the rest of it in storage so that we can go abroad and have some adventures.
Has anyone else been through this? Any thoughts as to what I should do in terms of people giving me gifts for the shower? It seems silly and wasteful to ask for kitchen and household stuff that we don’t even need, but I know that a major part of a bridal shower is the gift-opening. :S
Ahhh….what to do?!
Post # 3
I’m moving to another country 1 week after my bridal shower. I didn’t make a registry and my family is putting out the hint towards cash gift. It seems like people are “getting” it. Everyone understands our situation and is happy to help by not burdening me with more stuff to move. If I get gifts, I’ll be more than happy for that as well, though!
Hopefully your group will do the same thing. I don’t know what our plan is for the shower, if I’ll open up each card or whatnot. I’m sure we probably will.
Post # 4
we registered at the travel agancy
Post # 6
@RockStar33: Which travel agency did you register with? My fiance and I were looking into doing this as well
@NanaimoBar: I think the idea of money or registering with a travel agency is a good idea. I think most people realize that a lot of couples are living together before marriage and don’t need much if anything and especially since you plan on doing a lot of travelling this would be a great idea. Maybe have your shower have a travel theme to get the idea across even more.
Post # 7
@pinkworkboots: That’s a great idea! I wonder if most travel agencies will let you register with them?
Thanks for the input, ladies!
Post # 8
@pinkworkboots: we registered with Flight Centre because our personal travel agent that we always deal with, works for them. But i’m pretty sure you can do it at any of them. They set us up with a website on flightcentre.ca where guests can log in and pay by creditcard, or they can walk into any of them and pay cash or debit. They sent us little cards to include in our invitations as well. You don’t have to set up a a specific destination etc, they just collect the money until the cutoff date you give them, and then credit you for wherever you choose
Post # 9
I like theme parties for showers when people aren’t registered. I just think asking for money/gift cards for a shower kind of defeats the purpose. At least in my circles, the most central part of a shower is watching the bride open gifts & oohing and ahhing.
I, myself, would love a wine themed party where people bring a bottle of wine or wine accessory. Maybe, in your situation, you could do a travel themed party? Have the hosts tell guests to bring something to help you on your travels. I’m not sure where you’re going, but guests might bring things like luggage, luggage tags, beach towels (if you’re visiting anywhere tropical), maybe some nice nightgowns for you to wear on your trip, etc. Another super cute theme shower I’ve heard that people do on here is a “keep the love alive” theme, where guests bring something for the couple to do. Ideas have been board games + a bottle of wine, gift certificates to the movies in a package with some popcorn, etc.
ETA: I, personally, don’t like the idea of honeymoon registries very much, but, if you set one up, you could still do that in addition to a themed shower, so that people can choose whether they’d like to contribute to the HM registry, give a tangible gift, or both.
Post # 10
@les105: Dittp this!
OP, do you have anything that needs upgrading? Linens? Towels? Camping gear? If you truely already have everything you need, then don’t have a shower or have a themed one like les105 suggested (I really like the idea of a travel themed shower). You could also just have an afternoon tea instead of a shower. Everyone can get together for a nice afternoon and no gifts are expected. I strongly advise not having a shower if you’ve only ask for money for a HM or travel or something because then it looks too much like a fundraiser for your trips and I doubt that would go over very well with your guests.
Post # 11
I agree that themed showers are super fun. You could definitely ask for adventure and travel stuff, or register at stores that specialize in that kind of stuff. I like the idea of the luggage and cute travel things also.
AND don’t forget the quintassential lingerie shower. Depending how comfortable you are with that/ who is attending your shower, it’s always a fun alternative. Plus, who doesn’t love new lingerie? 🙂