- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I don’t want a bridal shower. I just can’t stand the games or the wrapping paper/bow hats people want you to wear or any of the sillier parts of it all. If I’m a guest at someone else’s I will play along, but I just don’t want one for myself. Another issue? I live out of state and would have to fly home and pay $300 to attend a party I DON’T WANT.
Despite being aware of this, my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law are apparently trying to throw one. Nevermind that they are (once again) usurping the role of the Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister), or the fact that they know I don’t want one. I’ll settle and attend a party that is low-key, in my backyard, with just snacks/sodas and mingling–no games, no garbage-hats, no talking about my sex-life in front of my relatives. I’m ‘settling’ for this because FSIL/FMIL apparently feel ‘left out’ when I say I don’t want a shower (because obviously the point of a bridal shower is about making people other than the bride happy even at the expense of the bride’s happiness) and I’ll put up with a party to make them happy as long as it doesn’t turn into a classic bridal shower. But I don’t know that I trust them to stick to that plan and I’m sick of how much they are turning things that are supposed to be about me into being about them.
It’s a shame because before wedding planning, I really liked these women. But all the times they’ve said “well it’s not my wedding…” when told of my plans, or tried to talk me out of things that don’t affect them at all (ie, roses for a bouquet, keeping my name) or criticized my Fiance for the 2 things he cares about in this wedding–I am just really starting to dislike them and I feel like now I’m seeing everything they do with a negative spin. Grr.