Post # 1
I’ve asked this question before but my thinking has changed.
Originally I had discussed inviting my close friends, and all female guests invited to the wedding which is about 50-60 guests.
I have been rethinking because I thought about it and I would prefer a smaller and more intimate bridal shower surrounded with people I’m truly close to and not to mention it would help my Mom a lot financially if I had a smaller guest list for the bridal shower.
I could basically just not invite all of FI’s aunts but I’m having a hard time because I’m kind of close to a few of his cousins. I’m at a loss because if I invite say female cousin 1 and not her Mother, i’m afraid it would offend her them both.
I put these cousins on the bachelorette party guest list (since its a surprise I don’t know who is attending)
Would it be tacky if I didn’t invite them to the bridal shower?
Is there anything wrong with just keeping it my immediate close family and friends only?
Post # 3
Let me also add that I don’t think FI’s family has plans to throw me a bridal shower of their own.
Post # 4
I think an intimate affair’s a great idea. But, in my family, if you don’t invite the women from the other side, you have opened a HUGE can of worms.
Post # 5
I personally wouldn’t invite every woman invited to the wedding… there are weddings I have attended that I didn’t feel close enough to attend the shower. I think an intimate affair sounds lovely!! I don’t think it’s right to invite someone’s child/daughter without the mother… if anything inviting the mother without the daughter is more acceptable. Maybe you can limit it to mothers, your mothers’ siblings, grandmothers, first cousins, and friends? Unfortunately if you are not even with the inviting it may cause problems?
Post # 6
@priyathescientist: It could definitely stir the pot but I’m willing to take the blame. Although… technically no one knows I’m planning the guest list. For all they know it’s a surprise and my Mom made the guest list. uh oh!
@Fallicious1012: Yeah I agree… I might just not include that side altogether. Funny thing is its still about 60 women with the first aunts and first cousins and close friends. We have a big family I guess. Maybe not compared to others