Bridal shower, who to invite

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t invite her.  There is no rule that every woman going to the wedding has to be invited to the shower.  Plus, like you said, she isn’t exactly getting her own invite so you didn’t invite her to the wedding so it would be weird for you (or the person hosting your shower) to invite them to the shower.

Post # 3
716 posts
Busy bee

I agree.  Inviting women you aren’t really close to, regardless of whether they are invited to the wedding, is a gift request.


Post # 4
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

kitkat13:  i wouldn’t invite her. i think the rule is more like, if you invite a woman to your shower she should be on the guest list for the wedding. not, she’s invited to the wedding so you have to invite her to the shower.

i’d treat her like anyone else’s plus one that you aren’t close to and see her at the wedding. 🙂

Post # 5
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

kitkat13:  You don’t have to invite everyone who is coming to the wedding.  You just shouldn’t send shower invitations to anyone who isn’t also going to receive a wedding invitation.

Post # 6
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

As others have said, I would not invite her.  Only invite her if she is going to be invited to your wedding. 

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