Post # 1
Im writting a list of people that I would love to be at my bridal shower this summer. In doing so I thought I would message my monster in law & ask who she would like me to invite. I recieved a message of a bunch of names followed by…”but your not inviting them to the wedding so you cant invite them to the bridal shower & to tell my Fiance that it will really hurt there feelings”~could this women get anymore childish!?!?!?! If some of you havent been following my post I have a mother in law from hell!!! I replyed saying “how would you even know that you havent seen the guest list for the wedding” (((I told her they were on the list just to put her in her place but the Fiance said that when it comes time to have to cut the list they are the first to go)). He has had about enough of this wedding stuff~ his mother is just ruining it for everyone. The girls that the monster in law wants me to invite I dont know very well and some Ive never met and dont want to invite them to a party for me to play who knows the bride the best when all they know is my name. ~but she’s haveing a hard time understanding that. (Im not suprised) Plus I work with women that are in there 60’s and I love them to death and would really like to have them there. This should be the best time of my life and its just turning into a nightmare* advise pleaseeee*
Post # 3
I invite basically all the females who were invited to the wedding (minus a few people like my FI’s work colleague’s spouses whom I have never met). It made it easy to make the list then! I think 40 people were invited, and a little over 20 came to my bridal shower on Sunday. I would finalize your wedding guest list before making the bridal shower list.
Post # 4
It’s your bridal shower, so you should invite the people you want to share the day with. If you aren’t interested in inviting your fmil’s friends, you don’t have to, that’s totally reasonable.
However if you know that you aren’t going to want to invite the people that your fmil wants, then why ask her for her input? If she is making things difficult, I would just avoid asking her opinion. Unless she is the one throwing the shower, she should just be invited as a guest, and doesn’t really need to have much input in planning the party.
Post # 5
Sorry your FMIL’s such a pain. If you invite them to the shower, you have to invite them to the wedding – I was in the same position my mother sent out shower invites to people NOT on our guest list – and she’d seen it 100 times already!! Now I’m stuck inviting them.
If those ladies are the 1st to go off the list though, then I wouldn’t invite them to your shower because you can’t cross them off the guest list later.