- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
My FMIL has insisted on throwing my wedding shower (in our culture, this is customary and not a gift grab)…what is a gift grab is what is possibly to come.
My FMIL asked me to make my guestlist. I have a small family and mainly male friends so my list was 7 people including my mom. That was fine with me…then my FMIL says “that brings the total to 30 plus us”…
Wait I am sorry, I have 7 people and she has 23??? So she dictates the list to me…6 people I have met maybe once (can barely put a face to them), 4 I have never met (my mother in law says they will come for her) and 6 (includin 4 I have never met) are not invited to the wedding!
I think this is in extremely poor taste and talked to FI and he just shrugged and said “it will look bad on her, not you”.
I don’t know what to do/say? Am I overreacting by feeling weird about this? They are all her family and her friends but this isn’t about her its about people who are close with me.
BTW I did try gently bringing it up about keeping it smaller and she completely dismissed me and said “they will come for me”.