Post # 1
Maybe it’s just my region, but does anyone else feel that bridal showers seem a little rushed? I’ve only been to two: one that I threw for a friend recently and my own this past weekend. Both times they only last about 2 hours, and it seemed like everyone wanted to just get there, have a little food, hurry through the games and the gifts and then get outta there.
Maybe it’s a regional thing? I would think they would last at least several hours. They’re supposed to be an event for your nearest and dearest, so I would expect people to want to hang out and chat. It just seems like a bit of a bummer that so much planning and expense goes into them only for people to be wanting to get in and get out asap.
My only other experience with showers is a few baby showers. It seems like people at baby showers like to hang out and visit longer. The few I’ve been to have been a lot of fun and people hang out for 4-5 hours. What’s the deal? Anyone else had this experience?
Post # 2
That seems quite quick but then again each shower I’ve been to has been varying times. The shortest that I’ve been to was about 3 1/2 hours and the longest that I’ve been to was an all day one (guests were told to come whenever they could and it was a HUGE family so it worked but the bride was super tired). I had mine this past weekend and it lasted from 1-5:30
Post # 3
They’re not always the most… thrilling social events. Honestly, I appreciate a shower that lasts a max of 3 hours, personally.
Post # 4
Yeah showers get pretty boring. All the ones I’ve been to are around 2 hours, sometimes less. Mine was right around two hours. Usually it’s for family or friends that I’m obligated to attend but would rather be doing other things with my two days off. Showers games are pretty cheesy and you can only watch someone open presents for so long. Open house showers are my favorite as people can come and go as they please.
Post # 5
mine was probably 3 hours.
i went to one that was 4 hours, most of it was opening gifts. i wasn’t really friends with bride and only knew 2 other people there so i couldn’t wait to get out of there.
it was my DH’s (though not at the time) cousin’s future wife’s shower.
Post # 6
kb7: Honestly I would not want a bridal shower to last more than 2-2 1/2 hours. I mean, it’s not the actual wedding, so why be sooo long? It’s fine if people want to hang around longer, but I wouldn’t want to make a guest feel obligated to hang out for 3-4 hours.
My bridal shower was 2 1/2 hours total and it felt just right. Some people stayed for an extra hour (mostly close family), but it is exhausting to host people and continue to engage them.
Post # 7
I get if you don’t know anyone there you wouldn’t want to hang around long, but family and close friends? Family functions always last longer and people hang out and conversate. I guess I just don’t get why showers have the stereotype of being so boring. Just hang out and chat!
Post # 8
For me two hours would be enough. Bridal showers are a lot different than baby showers because because at a bridal shower you are opening up kitchen electrics and sheets and that’s rather boring. At a baby shower the gifts tend to be much cuter so it’s more enjoyable. In my area people tend to have more of a couples shower and it would be in the evening so you would have a dj and those parties tend to be 5-6 hours long. It’s a bit of a “wedding before the wedding” But it’s usually a good time!
Post # 9
kb7: 2 to 3 hours seems to be the norm for my area. Few shower games and opening gifts/eating is the norm.
Post # 10
kb7: Mine started at 11:30 and ended around 2:30 and me and my core group of girlfriends and mom/FMIL stayed until 4:00ish chatting and finishing up the mimosas. So I would say officially my shower only lasted about 3 hours and that was enough for me, personally. I was tired!
Post # 11
I’m not sure people like showers all that much. I do though! I don’t like big parties, I don’t drink, I’m not really a dancing person, so to me a daytime party with food and games and a medium-sized group is perfect! But I think a lot of people think, ugh, I gotta spend my Saturday afternoon making small talk with my friend’s grandma, play dorky games, and watch someone open boring presents. I get it. Still love them, but I get it.
Showers don’t have to be like that though. Have good food, have good booze if that’s your thing, have the bride open gifts later if people don’t mind, and do more updated games. People said about my shower “that was actually fun!”
Post # 12
They aren’t super long around here, either. Maybe 3-4 hours, tops. And that’s only if there are some slower type games [like bridal bingo].
Post # 13
I’ve hosted three bridal showers and they’ve all lasted around two hours. I’ve also been to my fair share of showers and find that I start to get a little fidgety after the two hour mark. Generally, bridal showers are not the most exciting things (unless you are the bride) and I know most people dread the games and planned activities, and watching someone open a massive pile of gifts is not always the most exciting thing to do ever, either.
Post # 14
I went to a shower this past weekend for a cousin who I don’t know very well. It lasted three hours and that was plenty! There weren’t any games or food I could really eat (food allergy, which the host who I had never met had no idea about, no biggie) and opening presents only lasted about 20 minutes (mainly gift cards) since the bride was from out of state and didn’t want to take things back with her. I think showers can be fun and lengthy for people if they know a lot of people who are attending, if a lot of people don’t know each other, games can at least help pass the time and be a little bit of an ice breaker. Give bridal shower games a little love 🙂
Post # 15
I think of a shower (both baby & bridal) as being like a longish luncheon: 2-3 hrs tops. If they have cake and snacks only, I’d put them from 1-3 or 2-4, with a little time extra if people want to stay and chat. If there would be a full lunch, I’d make it longer, like from 12-3, since it will take people longer to eat. They could then do all the shower stuff after lunch. If friends or family are there from out of town, they could eat dinner together later.
I don’t know why your baby showers have lasted so much longer than your bridal showers. Perhaps it is because at a baby shower, anyone who has had babies feels free to tell lots of baby stories, but at a bridal shower, it wouldn’t be polite to talk a lot about one’s own wedding. Maybe it also depends on the groups of people coming.