Bridal Shower…ummmm inquiries…..

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Engagement parties are not typically gift-giving events.  It’s more of a celebration or an occasion for the two families to meet if they have not yet done so.

Bridal showers are thrown in honor of the bride (so hosted by someone else, typically the MOH/friend/aunt of the bride) and the point is to “shower” the bride with gifts to prepare her for married life.  

We set up a registry at Target and at JCPenney that people used for both the shower as well as the wedding.  What our social circle typically does is purchase physical gifts for the shower and bring a card with a check to the wedding.  Not every region or social group does it that way though.

As for showers being women-only, traditionally yes, but these days it could be a ‘couple’s shower’ instead. 

Post # 4
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1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You should register if someone has offered to throw you a shower. It doesn’t have to be for anything expensive. One of my friends felt that she already had everything she needed, so she asked the host to make it a recipe shower – guest brought their favorite recipe and some brought a little utensil or something to make it with. It was very nice. Obviously you can’t plan or host your own shower though. They are traditionally all female but I have been to some lovely couples showers recently. 

Usually engagement parties do not involve gifts, they’re just a nice get together hosted by someone close to the bride or groom (not hosted by the bride or groom though!)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My family treats showers like family events- it’s not just an excuse to buy giftf for the couple (though admittedly it is part of it), it’s also an excuse to get together and gossip and eat.  I see nothing wrong with showers because of how I was brought up in that regards.

In my family it’s always a gals event (other than the groom and fathers of the bride/groom, maybe a brother), but there are people who do “couple showers” with guys and gals.  They just aren’t related to me, haha.

You might get some gifts at the engagement party, but you certainly shouldn’t feel pressured to register for it.  You should register if you end up having a shower.  Usually in my area people bring physical gifts to a shwoer and money to a wedding.  If there’s an engagement party, they might bring a bottle of wine or something small.

Post # 6
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651 posts
Busy bee

@maReeposa:  Are you American or British? If you are British, then Bridal showers a big fat NO. I find that many wedding blogs and websites confuse British brides, because they are mainly used my Americans who do things differently to the brits when it comes to weddings, I learnt that the hard way at the start,,,hahah!

Post # 7
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9528 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am from Ohio/Kentucky in the US. Here I don’t usually bring a gift to an engagement party. 

I do usually bring a gift for a bridal shower. It is best for the couple to register prior to the shower so that people can bring useful gifts. I have been to many female only showers and I, personally, don’t really care for them. They often center around watching the bride open gifts. I find it awkward as hell. So for my showers we had couples showers and it was mich more relaxed and fun. More like a regular party with quick opening of gifts (we traded back and forth) at the end. 

Post # 8
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898 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@maReeposa:  My Mom threw my FI and I a kitchen shower. We already had many things that you would put on a registry, so guests brought a recipe card with their favourite recipe on it, and a kitchen gadget. There were men and women there.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@rdownie1:  UK brides don’t have bridal showers? Why? I think that’s kind of sad. Do they have another tradition instead?

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