Post # 1
This is super early to ask this question, my shower & wedding aren’t happening for a while…but it has been on my mind…
I am being thrown a very large shower (it’s how Greeks do it)- of around 80 women. Out of the group of my closest 7 girlfriends, only 2 of their mothers will be invited to the wedding (1 of them because I am very very close with her, and the other because she is the mother of my maid of honor)…now I definitely cannot invite the other moms because there just isn’t room in my reception area. This makes me feel bad. I know the other moms and like them very much, but I just can’t invite them.
This means I certainly can’t invite them to the bridal shower either, right? I just feel akward inviting 2 of my friends’ moms to the shower and reception and leaving the rest out…sigh.
I think they would understand if I spoke to them about it- I’m not afraid that any would hold a grudge or anything…but how would you all handle this?
Post # 3
I’ve always been under the impression that the only people to get invited to “pre-wedding” festivities are the ones that are invited to the wedding. I completely understand why you feel bad, but I think it just *might* come off as rude. Sorry for being blunt!
Post # 4
No don’t apologize, I really need to know what the right thing to do is!
Ok, so I will just explain the situation to my other friends. I am sure they would understand.
Post # 5
Your friends will certainly understand why their moms aren’t invited. Only my very best friend’s mom will be invited to my wedding, thus she’s the only one invited to the shower. I know you’re trying to be nice by including them, but unfortunately they just can’t be invited to the shower if they are not invited to the wedding.
Post # 6
Yes, I think my friends will understand…they know that I am trying to fit 500 people into 300 for the wedding and that it has been difficult.
I just really like their moms so it is a hard decision.
thx for the advice!