Post # 1
I think I’ve reached an interesting phase of bridal planning – the “I don’t care what etiquette says – this is what I WANT” (aka, the bride as a 2-year-old stage).
Anyone else at the point where if someone else says “well, that’s just how it’s done” you’re head is going to explode?
I don’t care that I should hand write my invitation addresses. Idon’twannadoit.
Or that people are after me to cave on allowing kids. It’smydayandIdon’twanna.
Please, please tell me I’m not alone! And share your stories of what’s pushing you to revolt against the etiquette police!
Post # 3
Totally not alone. I’m printing my invites and I’m not having toasts cause Idontwannadoit either. 🙂 There’s way to much pressure on brides to follow protocol and etiquette.
Post # 4
haha, i was like this the whole time. it’s not a tantrum.. it’s being decisive 😉 I made decisions early and stuck with them so i didn’t have to get to the pissy 2 year old part. haha!
Post # 5
I get like that sometimes too (especially for addressing invitations!) but I think it’s helpful to distinguish those things that aren’t rude, like printing your envelopes or not wearing a veil or something silly like that, from the things that actually are rude, like inviting people without their spouses or something.
Post # 7
Oh good! I’m glad I’m not the only one – these days it’s been hard to figure out if I’m being cranky or decisive
I figure that as long as I’m listening to FH, then I should be okay. If I’m just being a total b*tch, then that’s not cool!
Post # 8
totally not alone, this is so where I am at right now.
Post # 9
I think etiquette gets outdated really fast. If you want to be old fashioned and formal, go for it. If you want to do things your way, that’s fine too. Etiquette rules are made to put people at ease and give social cues. If it’s making you upset then you should probably go with what makes you happy. 🙂
Post # 10
I printed out addresses on labels. No one cared! We invited all kids, despite pressure to not do so. I can’t wait! There’s even an awesome playground right next to our park reception area, and I’m having fun making the kids goodie bags! Be polite, but stick to what you want!
Post # 11
I’m so fed up with my future family members that I want to stop it all. I spent a half hour trying to tell my FMIL that she is not respecting what I want and I’m done arguing about her side’s guest list (which she refuses to cut down b/c she’s friends with everyone). I also told her she’s selfish at the idea of missing out on her only son’s (baby of the family) because I don’t want kids at my wedding. She and my FFIL were going to watch their 2 nieces. COME ON ALREADY!
If people keep telling you “it’s your day, do what you want” but family doesn’t even support you or care what you want then of course you want to throw your hands up in the air!
Post # 12
I’m at this point. I’m tired of the whining and the complain by everyone else. Hey, who’s planning, executing, and partisicpating in this wedding? Oh, yeah, ME. Don’t like my table number idea? Too bad, I love them! Think I’m spending too much? i don’t give a poop, not a dime of it is your money! I’m at the point where you are either with me for this or you are not. Those who are not don’t get a say anymore. a little over 150 days to the wedding and I have shit to do folks! Not only that, but in the next two months I have to finish my thesis, submit it, and graduate AND look for a full-time job.
I think we almost all reach a point where we get sick of “advice” from others and just want to finish stuff already!
Post # 13
@rabbit – I am in your exact place right now. I’ve stopped talking wedding to some people because I don’t want their input (or anyone else’s). FH and I agreed on this and this is how it’s going to be. The prim and proper ladies can faint away – I don’t care!
Post # 14
I am glad that I am not the only one. My wedding isn’t even close to some of yours and I am already there. My stepfather made a comment the other day, and I flat out told him that if he didn’t think he was going to like my wedding, he could not come. He was like what??? And I told him again. It is my/our wedding and we will do it our way. We are paying for it all ourselves, so we are the ones that make the final decisions.
Post # 15
@noritake, good for you! I need to man up some time and say that to my manipulative grandma.
Post # 16
Owwwwww!!! Thanks for this post. You are definitely not the only one!
No kids? I dontwanna (plus, we couldn’t afford them!)
Your godparents/sponsors are not in pairs (it’s a filipino tradition)??? No!
And yes, I printed my addresses!