Bridal Tea: To Gift or Not?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Do you bring a gift to a bridal tea?
    Yes : (14 votes)
    61 %
    No : (9 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

    I have no idea about tea.  I would suggest a card with cash just in case it is being considered a shower.  Maybe even a card without cash just to take something.   Always be prepared.   

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would phone the hostess to clarify her intent.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I had a Bridal Tea. We registered, but we found it rude to include that information on an invitation. If someone had a question – they were asked to call the hostess. Everyone brought a gift. Some purchased them off our registry (which was included on our wedding website that most people found). I also recieved a Kate Spade “Mrs” necklace and a giftcard from the Hair Bar (as non-registered gifts).

    We considered the Bridal Tea my shower – so  sandwiches, desserts, tea, but no games. We also gave out favors. I would bring something since its a shower. If they didn’t register just purchase a giftcard. Other Bridal Teas I’ve attended everyone brought a gift. 

     

     

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  librarygirl85.
    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    librarygirl85:  But how are people to know that you expect gifts if it is called a tea and not a shower?

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    julies1949:  Well no one should “expect” gifts. If it is the only pre-wedding event, I would assume most people would figure out it was in lieu of a shower. And if they didn’t bring gifts, they didn’t. No big.

     

    That being said, I would bring a gift. Actually, I just attended a bridal tea last weekend and brought a gift (as did pretty much everyone else).

    Post # 8
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Pingwing:  Let’s be realistic. Brides expect gifts at a shower. That’s what showers are for. Can you imagine a shower where none of the guests brought a gift? If that bride were a Bee I’m sure we would see a venting post pretty darn quick.

    It may be a regional thing but around here,teas are not showers. You can have tea at a shower, or even a tea themed shower, but here teas are what people have when they do not want the guests to bring gifts.

     

     

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

    I would definitely bring a gift, especially if this is the only pre-wedding event. A bridal tea is a bridal shower. Where do you live? Here in Australia we have a “kitchen tea”, which is a bridal shower.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee

    In that case, I might just bring a small gift. Something decorative for the home, perhaps. Or just something small for the bride.

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Eh maybe it is regional.  I am in the US also and the bridal teas ive been to have basically been showers.  

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    julies1949: My guests seemed to know. Not one guest called and ask the hostess. Everyone brought a gift – they just knew. 

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    ArcadiaRose: I live in the US as well and teas and showers are used interchangeably. It might be regional, but I’ve lived in the northeast and in the south where Bridal Teas were just a fancier shower. 

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