Post # 1
SO my wedding is in September and I think we have some time. However my Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor are not really into planning this shower. Im a little upset and have hinted at doing it. Then my Maid/Matron of Honor is like I love you but im already planning your bachelorette party and I dont have all that money to spend. Granted it is a recession and she doesnt really have a job. One of my other Bridesmaid or Best Man doesnt have a job either and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man does. Anyway, I dont know what to do in this situation. If we do end up having a bridal shower or even a Jack and Jill Wedding shower, who should pay for it? I am not sure how this all works and its hard to put together one in this situation. Any advice would help so much! thank you!
Post # 3
My shower is being hosted by a good family friend. My bridesmaids are planning a nice bachelorette weekend. I’ve always thought the responsibilty of throwing a bridal shower didn’t fall on the bridal party. A close family friend or relative could host it just as easily. May talk with your mom and see what ideas she has.
Post # 4
If money is an issue, why not do a more casual-style affair? Have it hosted by your mother, or as July09 mentioned, a good family friend. Your BMs can all cook, or you can just do light-fare such as appetizers. The shower is an event to celebrate you, not cause you stress. BMs traditionally pay, but there is no reason to place a burden on anyone.
Post # 5
Showers aren’t required to be hosted only by bridesmaids. If you have an aunt or cousin (on either your side or his), or family friend willing to do it….I would go that route!
Post # 6
I agree, I would try your mom. Or perhaps an aunt etc. If that doesn’t work, could you find someone to "host" something really casual, while you supply the….umm, money? I’d use that as a last resort…but desperate times call for desperate measures.
Post # 7
I say in this day and age, anything goes!
Anyone can throw you a bridal shower. If you feel bad about people covering costs, you can hold an intimate soiree at your home. Everyone can bring a dish, sort of like potluck. I know traditionally, brides don’t hold showers for themselves but I don’t see a problem with it! After all, all you want to do is be with the people you care about most…
Post # 8
I just did 2 bridal showers for 2 different friends. One I am a bridesmaid for and the other I am not. I have a good job, but it was still very difficult to cover the cost of everything. You as the bride-to-be should not have to be bothered with any of the cost or planning. The girls should just recruit other ppl to help. For one we had the bride-to-be’s mom bring the dessert, one of the bridesmaids brought a dish, a friend did the fruit and veggie trays. They just need to get creative. Not everything is expensive, but if you try to do it all by yourself the cost can add up.
Post # 9
thank you for all the advice everyone!!! 😀 im giong to c what other things we can do. i was even thinking of having a picnic shower! that might be nice too…any more advice is welcome!