Post # 1
Are you and your groom planning on exchanging gifts (other than the rings, of course) on your wedding day?
I’ve always told my FI that he should not expect a nice watch from me (for Xmas, birthday, anniversary, etc) because that is a traditional gift for a bride to give her groom on their wedding day.
Last night he brought up wedding bands (I love it when he wants to discuss wedding related things) and the conversation moved to the watch I would be buying him. Then he asked what is traditional for a groom to give his bride. So I grabbed one of my many wedding planning books when we headed to bed and looked it up….
“The ring remains the official gift between husband and wife, but many couples enjoy exchanging something more intimate as well. It’s not neccessary, especially if you’re paying for your wedding and you’re already over budget. (And it’s not neccessarily reciprocal, either; sometimes, one spouse gets the other a gift, while the other may not be aware of the tradition.)
A gift from the groom to the bride most often involves jewelry–something spectacular to wear on the wedding day, or something personal or sentimental. The bride most often gives the groom a watch or cufflinks. These gifts should be something built to last–a metaphor for your marriage, of course! ….”
I made sure to repeatedly emphasize the “spectacular” part (and we had a good laugh). He brought up that he needs cufflinks a few minutes later, which I found funny as I’ve bought him a set for Christmas already. 🙂
So, are you and your groom exchanging wedding gifts, and if so, what are you getting him? Does your FI know about “traditional” gifts? What do you think he’ll get you? Have you discussed it?
Post # 3
we are not exchanging wedding day gifts with each other. like your book said, we agree with the rings being the official gifts between us and since we have already combined our finances, we don’t feel the need to really buy ourselves any more gifts. also, we are paying for our own wedding and it’s really not a part of our budget.
actually now that i think about it, even if we weren’t paying for our own wedding we probably still wouldn’t exchange gifts. it would kind of rude if someone was shelling out thousands of dollars for us, and we go spend money on spectacular gifts for ourselves instead of contributing that money to the actual wedding. i do think it would be cute to get a small, inexpensive gift that has personal meaning though. that’s just my personal opinion!
Post # 4
@SeaSalt: Yes we are. Since I already got him his “engagement watch” I’m giving him some special cufflinks and m aybe something else (TBD). He will most likely be getting me a piece of jewelery to wear (I think it’s going to be a David Yurman morganite ring I’m in love with, but we shall see!) I told him he didn’t have to get me anything (I know he will) but he does need to give me a card with a nice note inside!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Mr. W surprised me by giving me a dainty little bracelet from Tiffany’s on our wedding day. My present for him wasn’t a surprise, because I had to book it ahead of time (and it was pretty expensive, so I wanted to make sure he wanted it!) – I did a boudoir session with our photographers (whom we had already done our engagement session with, and we had booked them for the wedding, so I had met them several times), and I created a photo book from the photos. I wrapped up the photo book and had my maid of honor give it to him the morning of our wedding day. We both loved our gifts, I’m glad we did that 🙂
Post # 6
My husband was wanting a watch for some time so I arranged one as a gift on the wedding day. He got me a new ipad which was for use on our honeymoon (for the flights as I can not sleep!) not a traditional gift but thoughtful and very him!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
We’ve discussed this and we like the idea of this. I’m getting him a really nice watch.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@lisha_1988: Aww that’s really sweet! I would’ve loved an iPad for the long flights on our honeymoon!
Post # 9
We didn’t exchange gifts— in fact, I had never heard of such a thing till I started spending time on weddingbee, and when we talked about it, DH and I agreed that since we’d each given the other half of a wedding, no additional gift would be needed.
Post # 10
We exchanged a few days before the wedding – it didn’t make sense to do it on the wedding day since we weren’t doign a first look. He got me a SUPER nice necklace, which I wore to our welcome BBQ, rehearsal dinner and wedding, so I’m glad I got it a few days beforehand. I got him a bottle of whiskey. I didn’t know how much he was planning to spend on my present!
Post # 11
Him and I have touched on it, but haven’t completely decided whether or not we are exchanging gives.
He really wants a certain Torc (read: Old-fashioned Celt styled necklace meant for men) that I know where to get and trust me its not easy to find. Its about $100.. and I really want to give that to him on our wedding day as he’s wanted it forever.
I’m a bit unsure though, as he’s traditionally been a very horrible gift giver- giving gifts that as much as I keep for sentimental reasons – are things I would never wear or use. I would hate for him to gift me jewelry for the wedding, to hate it, and not want to wear it – then have him wonder why.
Post # 12
DH has several watches. I was pretty adamant about not adding to the collection. I bought him cufflinks (rather than use the rented ones with the tux). I thouhgt it would be a nice momento to hold onto after the fact. But he was sick the morning of the wedding and ddint even see the box that I left on the nightstand for him. =(
Post # 13
He has been wanting a new Zippo lighter for ages and for our wedding day I’ll surprise him with a new one that I will inscribe with something (just not sure yet). I am also thinking of booking us a hotel room for that night. We aren’t going on a honeymoon at this moment and he has already told several of his friends they can crash at our house and i’d rather not spend my wedding night with his friends in our house. So I think a nice little B & B sounds like a great surprise!
Post # 15
@dragonlover: Probably the only wedding fantasy I’ve ever had (seriously, i’ve never envisioned anything about my wedding beyond this) is to have flowers delivered to my suite as I get ready, with a letter from him. Any way you can drop a hint like that?
Post # 16
@SeaSalt: I never thought of dropping that kind of hint, but I sorta like it. For years FH and I dated long distance – so birthdays, holidays, anniversaries I would often get roses – my favorite flower even if some say they are overdone.
It would be sooooo romantic to have flower delivered and a letter/card from him. Especially as we aren’t leaving immediately for the honeymoon (there’s a gap of 4 days between wedding and honeymoon start).
hmmmm… I’d much rather the sentimental flower than jewelry I won’t want to wear…
Have you tried broaching the subject with your man?