Post # 1
I love my sister in law, but the other day she asked me to change my hair color for her wedding. I am in her bridal party, so I get that she wants things to look a certain way. Do you think this is a little too far? Its not like its a normal color either…she wants me to dye it lilac purple. I actually had this color a month ago for a comic convention..so I get that she saw it already and likes the color..but.. for a wedding? I just feel like I would be completely out of place, especially since no one else will have any type of funky color. I just don’t really know what do say.. I basically said, I’ll see if the hair stylist is free..but I am wishing I had told her no. Do you think I should go through with it or just tell her I am sorry. Also my dress is purple…so it would be purple on purple…different shades.. :/. What should I do?
Post # 3
She wants you to dye your hair purple? That’s above and beyond bridesmaid duties. You’re not a doll. I’d be politely saying no..
Post # 4
@moderngeek: a) I think lilac hair with a purple dress will look utterly ridiculous and b) no way would I let anyone dictate my hair colour/skin colour (ie ask me to tan/not to tan)/etc.
If someone asked me I’d laugh as if I thought they were joking and say no, and if they pushed it I’d step down. To me, it’s a completely unreasonable request.
Post # 5
I would just say you’ve had a change of heart. Asking you to change your hair color is a bit extreme, you have a life outside of her wedding!
Post # 6
What color is your hair right now? If it’s like hot pink or something I would kind of get whet asking for it to be another color, but purple just seems out there for a request…
Post # 7
not sure what your hair colour is now, but can say you asked your hairdresser and she said your hair isnt up for the process? that way you can do the whole sorry, i tried but im not going to end up bald for you
Post # 8
Under normal circumstances, NO. HECK NO.
But here, I think it’s a touch different. She saw you with purple hair, so she might very well think of you as someone who’s pretty go-with-the-flow about your hair. It’s not like you’ve been a blonde for 25 years and now she wants you a redhead or something.
I’d say you’re within your rights to tell her “sorry, I can’t do it,” but I’d be willing to bet she didn’t think it would be a big deal to you, given that your hair has already been that non-traditional color in the recent past.
If she gets really disappointed, could you maybe find clip-in extensions in that color and hand them out to all the bridesmaids? I’m thinking you could all cut them to your hair length and clip them in for a few pics and maybe the reception and it would be cute…
Post # 9
@moderngeek: Absolutely not! She gets you for one day. Anything that is only for the duration of the day is a fair request (e.g. dress, hair style, heels). Anything that lasts longer than the day is not (e.g. weight loss, tanning, hair length, hair color).
Post # 10
How come the other bridesmaids get way with not getting their hair colour dyed?
I feel guilty here. @MrsMagillToBe: I’ve treated my BMs and FGs as dolls! lol
Post # 11
Wow, this is not the way I saw this going. I thought you had a non-natural color and she was asking you to go natural for her wedding. Either way, she asked you to be a BM, not your hair. This is not cool.
Post # 12
Right now its platinum blonde..basically it is the aftermath of my lilac hair since they had to bleach it…but I like it, and I dont think it looks bad. Actually this was my first time dyeing it, so my hair has been a dirty blonde color for basically all my life. I was actually going to color it back to a normal color since I have to be in front of everyone(which I hate, I am really shy). Needless to say I was a bit surprised when she came over the other day when she had me measure her for her dress and just blurted out, “Hey, could you dye your hair that lilac color you had before for my wedding?! it was awesome!” She really likes purple. heh.
Thank you! I think it would look horrible as well..Purple and purple together sounds just bad. She actually asked for me to dye my shoes too. Basically she wanted me to find the same color dye as my dress and then dye my shoes! I at least told her that one was unrealistic and the color will defintely not match the dress, plus having all the bridesmaids do this would not lead to matching colors either.
I know, the other bridesmaids are off the hook for the most part, one even gets to wear a different color dress cause she hates the color purple.
Post # 13
@moderngeek: Oh gosh just nooooo a little too bridezilla in my book! You are her BM not her dress up doll. If you really want to make her happy and you are up for it maybe a couple of clip in extensions in that color?
Post # 14
@PetalFace: Yeah I think everyone is to some extent.. Asking her to dye her hair purple is a bit much though lol.
Post # 15
@moderngeek: I would tell her no.
Post # 16
I would tell her no. In my opinion, that’s outside of what an acceptable request would be.