bride asked me to change my hair color

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: would you change your hair color because the bride asked you to?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Maybe : (22 votes)
    8 %
    No : (70 votes)
    26 %
    HECK NO! : (176 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    She wants you to dye your hair purple? That’s above and beyond bridesmaid duties. You’re not a doll. I’d be politely saying no.. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    5784 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @moderngeek:  a) I think lilac hair with a purple dress will look utterly ridiculous and b) no way would I let anyone dictate my hair colour/skin colour (ie ask me to tan/not to tan)/etc.

    If someone asked me I’d laugh as if I thought they were joking and say no, and if they pushed it I’d step down. To me, it’s a completely unreasonable request.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3470 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I would just say you’ve had a change of heart. Asking you to change your hair color is a bit extreme, you have a life outside of her wedding!

    Post # 6
    Member
    7512 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    What color is your hair right now? If it’s like hot pink or something I would kind of get whet asking for it to be another color, but purple just seems out there for a request…

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    not sure what your hair colour is now, but can say you asked your hairdresser and she said your hair isnt up for the process? that way you can do the whole sorry, i tried but im not going to end up bald for you

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Under normal circumstances, NO. HECK NO.

    But here, I think it’s a touch different.  She saw you with purple hair, so she might very well think of you as someone who’s pretty go-with-the-flow about your hair.  It’s not like you’ve been a blonde for 25 years and now she wants you a redhead or something. 

    I’d say you’re within your rights to tell her “sorry, I can’t do it,”  but I’d be willing to bet she didn’t think it would be a big deal to you, given that your hair has already been that non-traditional color in the recent past.

    If she gets really disappointed, could you maybe find clip-in extensions in that color and hand them out to all the bridesmaids? I’m thinking you could all cut them to your hair length and clip them in for a few pics and maybe the reception and it would be cute…

    Post # 9
    Member
    7888 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @moderngeek:  Absolutely not! She gets you for one day. Anything that is only for the duration of the day is a fair request (e.g. dress, hair style, heels). Anything that lasts longer than the day is not (e.g. weight loss, tanning, hair length, hair color).

    Post # 10
    Member
    222 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    How come the other bridesmaids get way with not getting their hair colour dyed?

    I feel guilty here. @MrsMagillToBe:  I’ve treated my BMs and FGs as dolls! lol

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    7568 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Wow, this is not the way I saw this going. I thought you had a non-natural color and she was asking you to go natural for her wedding. Either way, she asked you to be a BM, not your hair. This is not cool.

    Post # 13
    Member
    8431 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @moderngeek:  Oh gosh just nooooo a little too bridezilla in my book! You are her BM not her dress up doll. If you really want to make her happy and you are up for it maybe a couple of clip in extensions in that color? 

    Post # 14
    Member
    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @PetalFace:  Yeah I think everyone is to some extent.. Asking her to dye her hair purple is a bit much though lol. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    2278 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would tell her no. In my opinion, that’s outside of what an acceptable request would be.

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