Bride asking bridal party to pay for transportation to wedding

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: should the bridal party pay for transportation
    yes - the bride and groom have enough to pay for you should be grateful they asked you! : (5 votes)
    5 %
    yes - its a bit unusual but help a friend out : (12 votes)
    11 %
    yes but only its its really reasonable ( : (8 votes)
    7 %
    no - you already paid enough for this "honor"/ you paid for your own wedding why should you pay : (82 votes)
    77 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    6026 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    The bride isn’t being reasonable. If the venue was a couple miles from the hotel, it would be reasonable of her to expect you to take a taxi that you grab off of the street, at your own expense; that’s like $15 and doesn’t require any special arrangements. But 30 miles away is a pricey cab ride, you didn’t pick the venue and you didn’t pick the hotel. It’s really unfair of her to shift this expense to you.

    Post # 3
    Member
    825 posts
    Busy bee

    Eh, normally I’d say it’s completely appropriate. I’ve frequently been in wedding parties where you have to pay for plane, rental car, and hotel on top of the ‘usual’ expenses. The fact that she is providing transportation for the rest of the guests but not for you all is a little shifty, especially with two weeks to go. But even though she’s being unreasonable, I’d say just cough up the cash with the rest of the bridal party. Anything you say is just going to cause unnecessary drama in the leadup to the wedding. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    3941 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    littlemisshostess:   Absolutely not reasonable,  the bride should be providing and paying for your transportation.   

    Post # 6
    Member
    7075 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Eh I voted wrong. I don’t think the bride is required to pay for transportation personally. Do none of you have vehicles..? Why can’t you use the same bus as the other guests?

    Post # 10
    Member
    1310 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    littlemisshostess:  Uh, what? So you’re expected to arrange and pay for transportation, to her own wedding, and then she wants to hitch a ride? Not cool at all. That’s her responsibility, in this situation.

    Post # 12
    Member
    5008 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    littlemisshostess:  She probably should have thought about this in advance… places may not even have a minibus/party bus for her to rent at this point, esp. w/Proms and everything going on. 

    -Can she extend the hours of the transportation for the guests? For example, have it bring you over two hours beforehand? Then you can all ride it back to the venue.

    -I would call cab companies and see how much it would cost to get you (and maybe another couple) to the venue. I don’t think at this point you need to worry about HER if she’s not worrying about her entire bridal party.

    -Yes, she should be the one to figure this out and NO, you shouldn’t have to pay for it. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    littlemisshostess:  It sucks that this wasn’t planned far enough ahead of time. Is there a bridesmaid who won’t drink anyway so maybe you can carpool with a Designated Driver?

    I personally don’t mind paying my way by taxi or something to a CLOSE venue, but 30 minutes? Every bridal party I’ve been in the B&G paid for a party bus to and from the venue.

    Does anyone in the bridal party have a SO that is going as a guest? Then you girls could drive to the venue, SO would park at the hotel and ride the guest bus, you all ride the guest bus back to the hotel and that SO drives you to get your cars? Idk :-/

    Post # 14
    Member
    1072 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    littlemisshostess:  If she’s taking the same transportation and providing transportation for other guests, then I do feel like the onus is probably on her to foot the bill.

    Post # 15
    Member
    4639 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    So, she wants you to pay for her transportation to the wedding?

    I can understand covering your own.. Although, I personally would never make guests do that but, this is just gross.

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