I just went through this; got married about 3 weeks ago. I would say what you’re feeling is normal. No matter what you have or how good it is, it’s always a little melancholy to think it’s the last one of those “things” you will ever have. A lover or a partner is no different than a car in that regard, and while we don’t ever plan to buy a car, keep it forever, and never look at another car again, no one would blame us if we did. There’s something very “final” about the wedding, and it’s pretty hard to get through one without feeling at least some of that “what if” sensation.
Plus, new love is intoxicating– not using that word dramatically, either, as there’ve been studies on the human brain showing that the part of your brain that is very active when you’re in a new relationship and thinking of your lover is the same part of your brain that is active when you’re high on certain drugs. It’s impossible to keep up that pace and intensity for very long; it wears off in most folks in about a year, then life quiets down and becomes routine. Which isn’t a bad thing. But if the thought of someone else (either an actual person you know, a celebrity, or a generic fantasy man) makes you tingle the way your fiance used to, and you miss that tingle, it’s totally normal. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or your relationship; it just means that you’ve traded the passionate crazy love for something more mellow, rounded and sustainable.
You’re also under more stress than you know right now, and a few days after your wedding you’ll be surprised at just how stressed you were at this time. Stress does weird things to your body, your mind and your emotions. You may also be sleeping less or not sleeping as deeply, and you’re probably off of your daily routine. Your body is confused and everything else is too. And part of you is probably already feeling the post-wedding blues; inside, you know that all of your hard work and planning is about to come together and you won’t have anything to “do” in your free time soon!
My advice: just ride it out. Over the next few days you will probably feel frustrated, annoyed with the whole concept of weddings, afraid of 1000 things going wrong, overwhelmed, irritable, sad, you name it. Make sure you plan some quiet time before the wedding with your fiance, maybe a nice dinner out, and ban all talk of the wedding during that time. Maybe even go for a facial and a pedicure, get some relaxation in. You’re going through very normal emotions.
Oh and as much as I hate to say it, it’s going to get worse before it gets better. Just try to find as much “me” time and as much “couples” time as you can over the next few days!