Post # 1
ok. fiance and i are getting rather miffed with our invitees because we are not receiving rsvps back from people that we should be. we took the time to self address and even stamp the envelopes, all they have to do is put a check mark and sign their names and pop it back in the mail. we spent good money on the postage, so that’s a main point of frustration, but also lack of being able to prepare. we have a decent idea of who all will be there, but there are the wild cards who havent shown up to any of our wedding showers/get togethers that we have no idea whether to plan for them attending or not. is rsvp-ing a thing of the past? do these people just assume that we think they’ll be there? more importantly, do i have a right to be frustrated with this matter? even if they were no going to be attending, the wording is “will celebrate from afar”… which is cheerful enough to not hurt our feelings if they have to decline. i just dont get it. money is tight when wedding planning, and i feel like all that postage and rsvp sets went to waste. the first few days after we sent out the invitations we got a few back, but now we are getting none, and the rsvp deadline is only a few days away with about 50-60 unaccounted for guests.
anyone else have this happen?
Post # 3
No, it is not a thing of the past. Most people just dont think about how much of a pain it is for the bride and groom to track them down, or they assume you know they will be coming. Personally even though i know someone is coming i still want an RSVP back from them because i paid good money for postage.
Post # 4
I think this is the number 1 problem every bride deals with. You aren’t alone. Just wait till the deadline passes and start facebooking or texting people. You don’t really NEED the final guest count till 10 days out, right?
Post # 5
This is pissing me off just over my bridal shower. How hard is it to RSVP on time? Seriously? The peopel who anger me the most though are the ones who have already been married – they should know better!
Post # 6
it’s just such a pain! we are both sentimental folks, so we love having our cute little rsvps in hand and seeing what sweet little comments people have written on there- well the ones that decided to send them back at least… i have NEVER just not sent one back, you pretty much know if you can come or not. it’s just baffling me right now!!
Post # 7
When is the RSVP deadline? Most of your guests will wait to mail the replies until just before the deadline, and many mail them ON the date they’re ‘due’ or a few days later.
Give it a week after the deadline, and then call those who have not yet sent their responses.
Post # 8
My RSVP deadline was last friday (4/20) and last night I had to hunt down people that refused to respond to my phone calls, texts and FB messages. I had some people say “oh I had planned on getting back to you…” WHEN!?!?
Post # 9
My deadline was 4/15 and I still have 80 or so people who can’t be bothered to tell me whether or not they’re coming. Joy.
Post # 10
my RSVP deadline is in 10 days and we have received less than half the responses. what is most annoying to me is many of them are our closest family members that you would expect to be excited and want to respond.
Post # 11
People are scatterbrained. Give a day or two after the deadlines to let the late ones roll in, and then call everyone who’s left. It’s gonna tick me off too, but you just have to take a deep breath and do it.
Post # 12
Everyone has been rsvping to my mom….not me! She called me last night telling me over 10 people let her know they would be coming. I was not pleased!
Post # 13
@littlebear2171- that’s our thing too! i would think my closest friends and family would for sure be excited enough to send back the rsvp card (especially since basically all the work is done for them…) but sheesh! i guess they are the ones that assume they’re a given to be there so they dont even bother. but that’s money down the drain! :/
Post # 14
I’m fully expecting to have to chase down over 50% of our invitees. Sad thing is, I can tell you in advance who many of them are going to be.
Post # 15
My deadline is in a week, and we are missing 75 RSVP’s! It drives me crazy that people are too lazy to let me know if they will come to the wedding or not. It’s really not that hard to check a box and mail a card that already has the address and stamp on it.