Bride is terrible at makeup….won't hire a pro

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
1931 posts
Buzzing bee

Maybe you and the other bridesmaids can pitch in so it’s not as extravagant of a gift from just one person? Or you can offer to do it for her, stress the importance of her being pampered on her wedding day and not stressing about the makeup.

Post # 4
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

@lavenderstone:  could you offer to do her make up for her yourself? I did that for a friend of mine who never wears make up. I’m no professional but it looked nice. 

Post # 5
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

@Ms_Purple:  +1!  Offer to do a trial for her yourself, and if she loves it, tell her you want to do it for her on her wedding day!  Maybe she’ll be more into that idea?

Post # 7
5818 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@lavenderstone:  Pretend that you have a friend of a friend who is trying to get into wedding makeup. “Would you mind if she does your wedding, for free, so she can build up her portfolio?” Then hire someone and tell her about the lie.

Post # 8
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I also rarely wear makeup and decided to do my own makeup for my wedding. But I’ve luckily got pretty thick skin.

I would focus on the biggest couple things, and be specific, then offer to show her what you might suggest, then offer to do her makeup on wedding day.

“I think that blush may be a little too pink, and I think your eyes might look better with a more neutral color rather than blue. You’re just so pretty naturally, I want you to still look like you! You know, I think I’ve got some eyeshadow and blush that might look really good. Could I come over on Satruday and show you what I mean? Then you can see what you like better. And I can even hep putting on on wedding day since you’ll be so stressed with a million things to think about!”

But also realize that what really matters is her oppinion. The most important things is that she (and maybe her fiance) thinks she looks amazing. When I did my trials and posted on bee I got tons of helpful comments, but I also had lots of people tell me that the makeup was okay for everyday wear but wasn’t dramatic enough for a wedding. But what they didn’t understand is that when you don’t wear makeup on a daily basis, any makeup is dramatic! It’s just a matter of having a different base point. So don’t stress too much if you don’t think she looks as amazing as she could if she got a pro. If she thinks she looks great, then she’ll be confident and that’s more attractive than any makeup. But bravo to you for being such a good friend and watching out for her!

Post # 9
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Perhaps her sister can offer to do her make-up as part of being mmaid of honour. 

Post # 10
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

This is a tough one.  I would probably keep trying to tell her in a nice way, but it does sound like you’ve all tried that.  If she really does think that she looks beautiful, I guess that’s all that matters.  I mean, if she loved a dress that everyone else hated, I’d feel the same way; that if she loves it, she should wear it.

What about her fiance?  Has he seen the makeup trial?  Will he like it?  That might be your only leverage left.  If he doesn’t like it, that will probably sway her.

Post # 11
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

If she thinks she looks pretty the way she did it, that’s all that matters.

So many brides choose a look I’d be humiliated to be seen in, but if they’re smiling from ear to ear about it, well, it’s their wedding, isn’t it? Though hopefully their groom feels the same way about it… it’s his wedding too.

Maybe ask her to show her groom her makeup and ask him what he thinks. Other than that I’d let it go.

Post # 13
3989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If she thought she looked beautiful then what does it really matter?

Post # 14
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@lavenderstone:  What if you suggested she do a trial and you and the other BM’s can attend and have a big makeup night? Then, after she applies frikkin’ glitter (gross!) and announces she is beautimous, you can give her some kind words and tips. In fact… you could wipe her face clean and try your own application. Would you be willing to do her makeup? She might be more comfortable with that approach.


Either that or cut to the damn chase.

Post # 16
895 posts
Busy bee

Get all the other bridesmaids and/or moms etc. to get theirs professionally done and then she will feel left out. That’s what my family did to me haha but minus the blue eyeshadow and glitter…

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