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Sigh. One of my BFFs is getting married in another country in April. Early April. The invites haven't gone out yet, and a variety of other things are really far behind. It's not my wedding, I've offered to help where I can, but they just do things at their own pace and that seems to work for them. 

We're having mismatched bridesmaid dresses, she said pick whatever we want in a color range. She also mentioned that finding one earlier is good cause you can pick whatever you want and the others would have to fill in the color difference. 

I've been photoshopping all the dresses together for her to get a clear picture. Yesterday, it appeared, I was the only one with a purple-ish hue dress (she wanted, indigo purple to royal blue). She said, yes, now that everyone else has gotten a similar blue, it might stand out and not fit in. She said she might want me to get another dress - even though I got mine in September and she loved it (I was unsure, she LOVED it)! I was only the second one to get my dress, and two of the seven BMs still have not gotten theirs. 

Look, she's completely indecisive, and I love her, so whatever, I can get another dress. But she won't let me know anything definitive (same for shoes) and the wedding isn't that far away! I like to spread out my expenses as I financially plan ahead and will also be out of the country for part of March (which she's known about for a long time). 

And sorry, this is super long, it's really just a rant (eep!). It's just frustrating when these things affect my own financial planning (as I'm clearly a Type A planner). Can't return the old dress now, which is fine, but I would really just love to be told yes or no so I'm not left in limbo here. 

@MrsNeutrino:  Yeah, I guess I'll hint at just having the other girls buy purpleish dresses. All the BMs are best friends, we just don't all talk all the time, live in different states, etc. So there's no animosity or anything there. 

I can tell you she definitely won't come up with one shoe for us to buy, so we'll be getting our own, she just needs to pick a color. We've suggested a few. And yes, I'll just have to over save and be patient (which I'm clearly not good at!)

I just don't like rushing to do things last minute...

@MrsNeutrino:  We could likely do that if she would pick a color. She's between gray and nude. She originally said nude, so many of us bought shoes, but is now not sure what she wants. If we had a color, I could suggest it, but I don't want to look like I'm taking over. 

@julies1949:  Yeah, I mean, I definitely understand what you mean. And if it was just a $200 dress I was only going to wear to this wedding, I would agree. I have worn my dress before this, so it's not a huge loss, though it's frustrating. And I really don't mind getting another one, I can definitely find a budget dress. I just want committment on colors!

I can get past spending the extra bit of money, but I'm not the best at doing things on other people's (tight) schedules. Especially with a lot of travel coming up.