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I read somewhere that it is because in the olden days, the groom needed to have his right hand available for combat, if need be, for example, if he needed to draw his sword, his bride wouldn't be in the way of it.
haha that sounds funny when I read it, but that is what I've heard.
I've heard something like that, too. It was for his weapon. Ha most of our traditions have some kind of practical origin that doesn't really matter anymore but we still do it.
I have also heard the weapon version of the story.
Come to think of it, I never have seen it flipped. Is there a logistical reason you need to?
Absolutely no reason that I need to switch them. I just want to.... and I'm not completely sure why.
We are Jewish and in our tradition the grooms stand on the left and the brides stand on the right 
My daughter wants to be on the 'grooms side'--as she says this is her 'good side'....I told her to get over it, she's on the left!!!
Unless you are Jewish, you might confuse the the majority of your guests if you switch places, but if that is what you would like to do, I would talk to the person doing your ceremony to see what they say. You might confuse them too :-)
I'll be standing on the left, BUT we're seating our guests mixed :-) He's going to have a lot more guests than I am so we both want it to be even :-)
I wanted to switch sides because my dimple is on my left cheek so I think it's my cuter side. :) I didn't want to give my traditional dad a heart attack though!
Definitely not jewish. I'm with Bridesmomma's daughter. I'm not sure why it should matter what side i stand on, or if Iconfuse people... I'll see what the officiant and my SO say. I just honestly wasn't sure if there was a reason and what it was. You bee's always know the answer :)
our venue doesnt have a middle aisle - its on the left but we're still going to stand in the front traditionally. Very interesting idea!
We are actually going to mix it up. We're Jewish so traditionally I should be standing on the right but i'll be standing on the left because my right is is my good side and I want that side to show in pictures when FH and I face each other. However, we are seating our guests opposite. The bride's guest will sit behind the groom and the groom's guest behind the bride. This way instead of starring at my back during the whole ceremony, my guests will be able to see me diagonally and his guests will see him.
@Meowkers - I always thought people should do that!!! If you sit guests opposite where the bride/groom is they can see the person they are there supporting. I'm glad someone else is doing this as I have thought that at every wedding I've ever been to.
This is so funny that you posted this question - I'm getting married in the church I grew up in, and for some reason, my family always sat on the right-hand side every single Sunday. My mom is stressing out about having to be on the left because it'll just feel so WRONG to her! Silly I know, but I've been wondering if its worth it to confuse our guests by switching it up so my family feels like we're sitting in our "spot." =)
Idk why we had to do it that way either. I would have prefered to be on right. But I was told b/c you are closer to your husband's heart from our Priest. (His Uncle) I think he said this, b/c I was being so "different" in the traditions and vows, that they wanted a bit of "normalcy". And I liked the sentiment behind it. Oh well...
I'm not sure, but I'm glad I'm supposed to stand on the left because that's my better side :P
really? swords? that's so epic. there's a tradition i could get behind!
It makes sense that the groom has to have his right hand free to protect his bride, but I don't know.
So, my guy is a lefty... does that mean we need to switch sides?! lol...
@bridesmomma haha!! That's something I would totally say to my mom!!!
My guy is a left too and I would prefer to change sides! If I don't get my tooth fixed (on right side I am genetically missing a tooth that bugs me) before the wedding - we just may have to forgo tradition and go the other way!
It is because back in the day brides were often kidnapped on their wedding day so the bride would stand on the left so that the groom could have his right hand free to grab his sword and fight off anybody who would try and kidnap her.
I'm confused... If the groom is on the right, then he would only have his right hand free to fight off the attackers/kidnappers if they came up from behind the priest!! (rather than from the entrance to the church, up the aisle) ....right?!
@mandalee0624 - Crack me up.
@farmersdaughter- Our side is on the right also!!
OMW - Is it weird that as soon as I read the sword explanation I was like "J must get a sword!!!!!!!!"
hahaha @daydreamwanderer, when I explained this tradition to my FH, he immediately said, then I need to carry a sword!
Amazing!
In the Jewish tradition the position of the bride on the right side of the groom is based on an interpretation of verse in Psalms (45:10) "The queen stands on your right hand in fine gold of Ophir." In Jewish tradition the bride is a queen, and the groom a king.
OMG! i cant believe some one has posted something like that.. This might sound funny but i was in the shower thinking of our wedding and i came to realize that females are always on the right side.. it has been bugging me for a while and i never knew why is that.. To be honest with you all i like my left side face better than my right.. i know silly but when i take pictures i always position my head to see my left side.. now i was thinking "i dont want to be on the right side.. thats my bad side..haha" i think if i switch sides it will look confusing to everyone.. huh.. what to do..
So there is a reason behind lefty and righty.. who would ever think of that..
Oh thats interesting! I had been wondering why the Jewish tradition is opposite. But wouldn't they become king and queen after they are pronounced husband and wife? If the bride stands on the right (from audience point of view) during the ceremony, when they turn around and become introduced as husband and wife (and greet their royal subjects lol j/k), the bride will be on the grooms left. If the bride stands on the left, then when they turn around to meet the people she will be on his right hand side. Oh I don't know, its all so confusing. I guess either way, at some point the bride is on the groom's right hand side. So I guess wherever people wanna stand!
We are having an interfaith ceremony, and I made sure to note that I will be standing on the left during the ceremony. I'm weird with being on the "correct side" of the bed, sitting in restaurants etc.. so it mattered to me.
I dont think it actually matters, personal preference.
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Can anyone tell me why the bride and her attendants/guest go on the left side of the ceremony (looking up the aisle) and why the groom goes on the right?