(Closed) Bride or Groom’s Name First?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

it’s up to you, but i say, "ladies first!" and, i’ve only ever seen bride’s name and groom’s name…blah, blah, blah….on wedding invites. if you put groom’s name and bride’s name….blah, blah, blah……you guys would be pioneers!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

According to my wedding planner my initial goes first

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

According to the few etiquette books I have the bride’s name goes first. Of course I messed up our STD’s and my fiance lovingly pointed it out…after they were printed.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

 On all pre-wedding stuff the bride’s name goes first, then after you’re married your husband’s name will go first.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Technically the bride’s name is supposed to go first. =D I think it’s the wedding industry’s way of giving us a "last shot" at coming first, since after we’re married our name is technically supposed to come second.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

The invitations/program/save-the-dates/monograms I’ve seen have listed the bride’s name first.  Good luck!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have always seen the bride’s name listed first and then after you are married, he is always first. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

I put my name first, but didn’t really think about why! I think our names sound better as My Nam & His Name, but it wasn’t really a conscious decision. Maybe I did it because I felt like i deserved to be selfish if I was making the invitations! Haha.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

According to my bridal book, the bride’s name goes first…and I’m agree with ladybug..ladies first 😀

But, if it’s going to bring up a heated frustration/argument: I would just put his name first because I wouldn’t want to argue about sometime that fickly. (I hate arguing..)

Post # 12
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Honey bee

Tradition says that the woman’s name goes first. But it is not a breach of etiquette, as some people believe, if you put the man’s name first instead.

Post # 14
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Honey bee

Whoever is paying is moot

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ladies first in my opinion.  I’ve seen it done both ways, but mostly with the woman’s name first (like 90% of the time).

Post # 16
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Helper bee

SoontobemrsC, I hope that no one who comes to your wedding will be so vicious and small-minded as to say nasty things about the order of your names on invitations and favors! The traditional way is one way of doing things but it isn’t the only way and there’s nothing tacky or crass about doing thing differently. Putting the names in a non-traditional order is NOT on par with demanding that guests bring you extravagant gifts, or pay for their own meals or whatever.

🙂

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