- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
My BFF, who was my MOH, is getting married. She threw me a Pampered Chef bridal shower and had soup and finger sandwiches. She never asked me what I wanted, and I didn’t care because I knew whatever she did it would be fun. And it was!
So now it is my turn to host her bridal shower. She finally got the total ppl and addresses to me, but sent this along in the e-mail:
“Attached are names and addresses for those I’d like invited to the Bridal Shower. Also do you have a Pampered Chef gal? I will bring my big roaster and we will have soup, finger sandwiches, PC demo, and Fruits and vegies.
I have two lists in the Xel, Sheet 2 is the bachleret list. Are you doing the invites? if so, could you just put a postcard thing in the bridal shower invits to those invited to the evening events?”
I don’t think she is being demanding, BUT:
1) Why is she bringing a roaster and soup? And sandwiches? And fruits and veggies? I went to her FI in secret and asked him all her favorite foods so I could surprise her at her bridal shower with them. Soup and sandwiches were not on the menu.
2) There will not be a postcard in the shower invites for the bachlorette party. There actually isn’t even invites for the bach party…
3) Her FMIL is coming from out of state the day before the shower. Does my friend really want to be cooking and figuring this stuff out when she should be spending time with her FMIL? I juust want her to show up and have fun 🙂
Honestly, this has taken some of the fun out of planning the bridal shower. I feel like I’m expected to host a hoard people at my house and shell out the dough to make a party, but I have no say in what food or anything?
My question is how do I and should I tell her that I’ll be making the food with the promise of keeping it light, but will not be having soup and sandwiches? And she will not be making it. And there will be no bach invites–just a little slip of paper telling them to join in for the evening festivities. I’m a little nervous because she is a “I don’t give a shit what others’ say” type person. She’s been that way during her wedding planning also, to which I just keep my mouth shut and smile. But this I don’t know if I can or want to.