Post # 1
I’ve already had multiple people (from two different families and a friend) say they “have already planned” my bridal shower. Now… our guestlist is rapidly approaching 250, and at least one side ALWAYS does co-ed showers, so I can totally see major benefits in letting three different people throw three different showers so no one has to host a huge amount/spend a ton of time & money.
So here’s my question: If I do end up having 3 different showers, is it ok to request a particular theme for one? Themed showers (that may or may not request gifts that go with the theme) are really typical in my circle. So maybe someone hosts a kitchen/cooking themed shower & we all buy that kind of registry stuff.
The really big side of the family is WAY into Christmas. They all have crazy Christmas villages and all the matching dishes & serving stuff with holly and snowflakes. I SOOOO want to be that married lady! So is it totally rude of me to ask my aunt who has already said she is hosting a shower (didn’t ask– just claimed it basically) to host a holiday themed shower & have people buy either the Christmas dinnerwear I’d register for or just whatever holiday decorations (any holiday) they want? FWIW- I think the guests from that family would be really excited about the theme.
If the bees decree this the horrible “tacky” word, I’m totally throwing this shower for the next cousin! I’m kind of in love with the idea.
Post # 3
Depends who is throwing it.
My Mom and my MOH headed my showers and they had a meeting with all the BM’s and myself to discus ideas and give me a party.. I was included in alot of the planing and helped pay for some a little…
It depends on your relationship and culture. For me and my group thats normal… for many Bee’s hearing this will give them a heart attack.
You know your situation best.
Be thankful for what you get but its always ok to polietly ask for what you want!
Post # 4
I think it’s an awesome idea You need decorations as much as you need a toaster
Post # 5
@MexiPino: I completely agree with @alishaloo: Some people on here may have a heart attack but in our family/ group it is very common for the bride to play some part in the planning. They asked me what I want and I told them!!
Post # 6
@alishaloo: Yeah…. I’m ready for lots of bees to call me “tacky” since apparently EVERYTHING is tacky or offensive to some people. Thanks for your feedback though! I’m usually the party-planner (I’ve thrown 10 showers in the past 18 months), so it’s really hard to try to take a back seat now.
@Glasgowbound: Thanks! Yay… I mean, I’m WAAAY more excited to register for Christmassy stuff than regular dishes.
Post # 7
@MexiPino: Some bees …. Well to put it nicely they have a huge stick up their ass. Haha or their nose glued to the air haha.
every detail about my wedding offended SOMEONE! Here or in my family. But that same detail someone else loved.
wedding planning is so over rated and over stressful …
Dnot even worry about it !
Post # 8
@MexiPino: I think if they ask you what you want then go ahead and tell them. But I think offering it unsolicated is presumptuous. It could be possible that the people who have offered to host your showers have already planned around a theme or style they are comfortable with. Basically these people are doing a nice thing for you and I personally think making demands of them is stepping over the line.
Post # 9
It all depends on where you are from.
I’ve been to many showers with themes.. and never thought twice.
Lingerie, decor, home, date night – none of them bothered me, but it’s pretty common where I live!
I will probably have a theme of kitchen or decor.. and for the “door prize” i’d like them to bring in items that can be donated to the local animal shelter [toys, food, ect].
Not sure if you guys do door prizes, but around here whether it be bridal or baby shower, guests are asked to bring in a door gift, and each person who does is given a ticket – later a prize is drawn and the winner gets a door prize.
Post # 10
I would be so jealous! That sounds like an awesome shower! I say bring it up with the host to see what she thinks about the theme shower.
Post # 11
It sounds like a lot of fun! If your aunt loves Christmas, I bet she would love this idea. You might want to ask your mom to talk to her and try to find out if your aunt had her heart set on a theme already. If she doesn’t have her heart set on something, I bet she would love this suggestion.
Post # 12
@MexiPino: When I read the title o fyour thread I rolled my eyes thinking “here’s antoher self-centered bride” but now, having read the entire thing–I think your request is appropriate.
It is very cool that your family collects all of this Christmas stuff and you want to join that family tradition! I would think that your aunts and uncles and cousins would LOVE to buy the Christmas stuff!
When will the shower be held? Will Christmas stuff still be in the stores?
Post # 13
@FauxPas2012: That’s what I was wondering too!
OP, I think it’s fine to request the theme, but when is the shower? It may be hard for your guests to buy you Christmas decor in July. But if they knew about it now, they could buy in advance!
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Since your family’s so into it, I see nothing wrong with asking the hostess for that shower about having a Christmas theme.
Is your cousin into the Christmas craziness as well? I’d check with her before making it a tradition, just in case. 🙂
Post # 15
@FauxPas2012: yeah- I worded the title purposely to be a little biased against me in hopes of getting more honest opinions if I was being a bitch :). I am not sure when the shower would be but it’s possible it would be as late as mid Oct so there’s some chance but the dinner wear is available online all year.
Post # 16
@rebwana: lol yeah! The cousin most likely to get engaged next is the daughter of the aunt throwing my shower. She would always help her grandparents set up their insane Christmas village that took up half the room.