Post # 1
Hi y’all. I want to write a speech to my guests and my groom to be read at our wedding. I don’t mind public speaking. I was a performer for years. My groom, on the other hand, hates public speaking. He’s not very good with his words. He’s a bit shy in crowds. I don’t think he will write and say a speech to me at the wedding or the rehearsal dinner. It’s not his personality. I don’t need him to either. I know how he feels! 🙂
But, I wanted to toast him. I know that Brides don’t commonly do this. Brides probably don’t do this especially when the groom isn’t going to do it!
What should I do? Any input, advice, or opinions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Post # 3
I think you should absolutely do it! Forget about norms. This is what suits your personalities. It will be a wonderful opportunity for you to say what’s on your heart, and that’s what wedding celebrations are all about!
Post # 4
Go for it! It’s a day to celebrate your love and union – you do what you want to do! 🙂
Post # 5
I think that if it’s something you want to do, then go for it! Just let him know beforehand that you are ok with him not doing the same (maybe he could present a speech just to you after?) so that he doesn’t feel put on the spot.
Post # 6
I think if it’s something you want to do–go for it! I’ve never seen tihs before, but I think it would be totally sweet to hear what the bride has to say about her new husband! 🙂 You could always mention something in your speech to your guests on behalf of both you and your husband, so that way they’ll know that he’s not going to speak, too. Then just have your DJ/emcee ready to introduce the next speech/dinner, or whatever.
Post # 7
I love it! I was going to make a speech too (and I don’t think my FI will).
Forget tradition! Do what is right for you! 🙂
Post # 8
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I agree you should just do what you heart wants; personally i think it would be REALLY cute!!!
Post # 9
i think that is such a nice idea, you should totally do it!!! i think its ok if you just say something and not your FI if hes not comfortable speaking in front of crowds.
Post # 10
I am making a speech but my FI said the bestman traditionally makes the first toast
since I planned most of it I dont mind this detail because it is very important he keep his traditions
Post # 11
I love the idea and plan on doin it myself. The whole point of toasting him isn’t just so he’ll do it back,a nd you totally get that which is wonderful!
Post # 12
I totally did this! Here’s how we orchistrated it.
We opened the floor for toasts at our wedding, so after the traditional speech givers were finished anyone who wanted to could stand up. When I felt that everyone was finished, I closed everything out. I thanked everyone for all the hard work they had put in to creating this special day, talked about how we could never have done it without their help. I thinked all the guests who had come from far and near (we had friends from across the county), and then I turned to my fiance and toasted him. I of course was in tears by the time I was finished. He thankfully got right up when I was finished and hugged me. Everyone clapped and we went on about the reception. I’ve gotten more compliments on that element. And no one thought it was unusual that my FI did not do the same thing. Plus everyone knows I’m Ms. Talk,Talk,Talk and he’s totally shy.
I seriously encourage you to do it! I’m so thankful I did!!!
Post # 13
I do not like speaking to crowds, but fiance loves to. If it were up to him, he would have the mic all night. Instead, he is doing a thank you, invite to the after party, etc. before the last dance. This way I won’t feel obligated to say something in return … just an idea!
Post # 14
I love this idea! But I’m afraid I would boo-hoo through the whole thing. 🙂
Post # 15
Oh I love this idea! My soon-to-be-FI and I are very social people and have discussed how we want to toast each other after the other toasts with cute little "the momenet we knew" anecdotes and of course, to say thank you as well.
Post # 16
Thanks bees. I think I am going to do the toast, but say "Thank you from both of us" so that he doesn’t have to get up. 🙂