Post # 1
A girl I was friends with, but now no longer, took a stab at me and my fiance because we are not writing our own vows, and her and her fiance are writing their own. This is the choice me made because both my fiance and I feel that those vows are personal, private thoughts, feelings, emotions, etc. We are customizing our ceremony and vows and changing words to reflect ourselves and eachother as a couple, but we are not writing and reading our own, we will just follow what our officiant says. It didn’t bother me until we recently ended our friendship and now that my wedding is coming up, I’m rather hurt and angry at her for making such a judgment like that on me and my fiance. Who seriously does that to someone? Has anyone ever had this happen to them?
Post # 3
Don’t know if this will help, but when I watch wedding shows and the couples read their own vows, they tend to spend the entire time looking down at a piece of paper instead of at their partner. I CAN’T STAND THIS! At least take the half hour to memorize your damn vows, or repeat after the officiant.
I am sure that your vows will be lovely, and you will get to spend the entire time looking into your soon-to-be husband’s eyes 🙂
I also think that traditional vows, even if they are modified, have a sweet and elegant way about them.
Post # 4
There is no law saying you have to write your own vows. There’s something romantic about saying the same vows as millions of others before you in history.
You have to love how crazy people get about the silly little details. Some people aren’t good writers, or get nervous speaking in public. Just because you’re not writing them, doesn’t make the actual vow any less real or important. As long as he knows what’s in your heart, I don’t see why anything else should matter. The fact that you’re getting married in front of friends and family speaks volumes about your devotion to each other.
Please don’t let it bother you. It’s such a petty thing for your “friend” to worry about. I don’t know what gets into people, but it makes me sad for her that she has nothing better to do than criticize your wedding.
Post # 5
I am also sticking with traditional, repeat after the officiant vows. There is something very nice about them I think!
Post # 6
When I was little and imagining my wedding, repeating was the thing to do! I feel like writing your own is a newer trend (I have no idea if that’s true AT ALL so don’t be upset with me if your great-great-great-grandparents wrote their own – I’m JUST saying it seems more popular these days). This isn’t what you two ended your friendship over, was it? I hope not. 🙂
Post # 7
When people asked I just replyed “Those vows have worked for people for hundreds of years, so why mess with a good thing.”