Bride tells Friend that her FI can't come to the Reception…After the Ceremony

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

MrsToBeeMgn:  Did the invitation say that this girl’s FI invited? And did she RSVP for 2? I’m having trouble understanding why this wasn’t dealt with before the wedding.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Wooooooooow.  Talk about terrible etiquette.

Post # 6
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Wow. Classy. I would have said, ‘Well, I guess there’s no room for our gift to you either’.

Post # 7
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1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

That is crazy, and I would have done the exact same thing as the guest. Yikes.

Post # 8
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11712 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeesh, that’s pretty awful.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Geeze I hope the friend not only grabbed her FI but her gift.  How on earth during your day do you remember to say that to someone?  Holy cow. 

Post # 10
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6859 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Unless there’s more to the story, this makes no sense.  I would have left, too.  What, did they have extra guests show up last minute and the bride decided the FI is the one who had to go to make room?   I guess that friendship is over.  

Post # 11
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559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well that was rude.

Unless there are very specific and strict restrictions by the venue (which I know happens a lot), I don’t know why brides get so uptight about an extra guest here or there. Our venue could hold a few more than we had RSVP and we knew some people from my husband’s extended family might show up unannounced, so we purposely had an extra few seats and meals available. We made sure that we could fit that into our budget just in case. Glad we did becauase it happened. I wasn’t mad – I was glad they made it! What fun it was to dance with a cousin I hadn’t met before that day!

It would be different if I absolutely couldn’t fit them in. If I knew space or whatever was going to be an issue I’d probably have clarified expectations with everyone before the wedding (‘”are you coming or not, because I’m afraid for fire safety reasons the venue won’t let you in if we’re over 99 people” or “I wish he could come but the venue absolutely will not allow more than 99 people and I’d hate for you to be turned away.”)

If this was just about the bride deciding she didn’t like the friend or her fiance, the wedding was a bad time to deal with it.

Post # 12
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8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It seems like there is something missing from your post. If that’s really how it happened, the bride sounds super rude.

But, being that the bride told her they were invited over the phone [not via rsvp], it makes me wonder if the bride thought she was talking to someone else.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

MrsToBeeMgn:  What kind of stories? Not that there could be any justification. Your friend is very forgiving. 

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