Post # 1
A friend of mine is in a wedding in a couple weeks and the bride is requesting that all bridesmaids get manicures and pedicures in a specific color. She just made this decision about 2 days ago. The bride is requesting that the maids all take off of work so they can all do this together. The total price for both with tip is about $80. My friend just had both done for a wedding that she was going to over the weekend before the bride made this decision. Is she wrong for not wanting to have to get them redone when she just paid to have them done? Friend also asked the bride what color it was and said that she would be willing to do them herself. Bride wasnt going for that idea though. Help!
Post # 3
If the bride requires it, the bride can pay for it
ETA: and taking off work for it just crazy. Ain’t nobody got time fo dat!
Post # 4
I always feel like other than the dress, if there’s something you want as a bride, you have to pay for it. I think it’s wrong to force BMs to have professional hair nails and makeup done or a certain jewelry or even shoes, they’re such minor things that it’s like if it’s your vision, you should have to pay to get it. In my mind, BMs should only be responsible for the dress, and for being a nice supportive friend.
Post # 5
I think it’s ok to want everyone to have the same look but to make them pay for it is a little much. She offered to do it herself… that should be enough for the bride.
She should just say, I’m sorry, I can’t afford that but I would be happy to paint my nails to match.
It’s not like there are going to be many close up photos taken of bridesmaid’s nails.
Post # 6
I don’t think asking for you guys to have matching manis/pedis is too much. I think you should do it. HOWEVER – I think for that price, the bride should pay. When I had our girls get them, I invited them to join me, the morning of the wedding, and it was up to them. I found a reasonably priced place ($30 or so for mani/pedi), so they got to choose if they wanted to pay for it or not. If they didn’t – no big deal. I more just wanted the experience.
As for your friend that just had it done – again, I would suck it up and do it for the bride. Changing the color of your nails is not a big deal. $80 is, though, so I really think you guys should either request that she pay, find a cheaper place, or come to some other compromise.
Post # 8
As a bridesmaid, I always go get a mani/pedi before the wedding, but its always been my decision. If the bride is requiring it, she should pay. On another note, $80 for a manicure and pedicure?! That is outragous! I get both done every week any i’ve never paid more than $40!
Post # 9
@BookishBelle: Right, if the bride requires…the bride pays. In my case, I said, “hey, I’m going to get my nails done on Friday at X place at X time, let me know if you want to join, and I’ll make you an appt too.” One chose not to, and some are only getting one service or the other, but it’s up to them and I’m cool with whatever they choose. Same with hair/makeup.
Post # 10
I have never heard of a mani pedi costing $80. Can you buy the polish for $8 and then take it to a much cheaper place to get it done?
I pay $25 usually.
Post # 11
I did the same when I was a bride…but I paid!
In fact, I sent out the plan (manis, pedis, massage, facial) a few weeks before, and one of my BMs called me to get a “price estimate” so she could put it in her budget. I was so floored she even asked–I wanted to have it done, of course I would pay for it!
Post # 12
I don’t get why the bride wouldn’t allow her to paint it herself when it’s going to be the same color anyway?
I agree with the PPs. The bride should pay for it especially since she’s actually asking them to skip work for this.
Post # 13
If she’s requiring it, she’s paying for it. No ifs, ands or buts. If she doesn’t want to pay, it doesn’t get done — I’d never pay 80 bucks for a manicure and pedicure, that’s just crazy talk.
Post # 14
@meganmarie33: i think anything that is noticeable, you signed up for paying for when you said yes to being a bridesmaid. however, nails do NOT fall into this category, and they should NOT be having to take off work for it. nails are completely un-noticeable in photos, if your maids are in long dresses you shouldn’t GAF about their shoes, etc.
Post # 15
@meganmarie33: The bride is being over the top. Nails are not that serious, as long as they look nice. I wouldn’t pay for that if I were your friend, especially after already getting them done. Not to mention I hate pedis because I feel like those foot baths are a cesspool
Post # 16
I guess the bride found a picture that she wants her photog to take of their feet and that is why she is requesting the pedicure. I guess I dont understand if she is willing to buy the polish herself and make them the same color why it would be such a big deal.