I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding that in a few days.
I've already had problems with the amount of money she's been wanting us to spend, but that's another story. Anyway...
The dresses are dark teal. The other dominate color is gray. Okay, not my favorite for a summer wedding, but it's her wedding and I get that. So I brushed it off.
Well she's been very controlling about what kind of curls we can and can't have in our hair, no braids, no this, no that, etc.
OKAY, I brushed that off and I am getting the most bland updo there can be.
THEN today she stopped by my house and informed me that the bouquets are peach colored...and she wants me to paint my nails NEON YELLOW. NEON YELLOW. WHY?!
She told me to face that all the bridesmaid will be wearing neon colors (with dark teal dresses and silver shoes) because SHE DOESN'T US TO BE PRETTY STANDING NEXT TO HER.
I'm so pissed you can't even imagine. I understand that it's her wedding, but I'm LIVID. I'm not ugly and I don't want to look ugly, not even for her. What a "friend."
Sorry, I just had to rant. :(
Well if it makes you feel better my sister painted her nails neon yellow the other day just for the hell of it. Then again she's a teenager.
Honestly, that does not sound like the type of girl I would want to be friends with. That kind of a statement - from a bride to someone who should be a very close friend - is pretty eye opening. I would just do it and then distance yourself from this friend.
Wow, that's so ridiculous. When she grows up in a few years, she's going to regret doing this, because her wedding pictures are going to look so bad!
I'd tell her to shove it up her ass. I'm rude like that though. My thing is, do I want to look back at my gorgeous wedding album in 10 years and see my nearest and dearest looking "ugly"? Frick no! I want to look back at my photos and see my best friends having fun, looking gorgeous, enjoying this momentous occasion in my life.
Le sigh. Some people!
I would just try to laugh about it instead of getting mad...she's the one who will look ridiculous if she's fussing about things like your nail color...
I think dark teal is a lovely color, though, and would look good on many people. Does the dress flatter your figure?
She's the one who will have to live with those pictures! She's going to look back at them and regret it, I think. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that though.
That's INSANE! She must have a complex then... I know as a bride I want my BM's to feel as pretty as possible that day. I would talk to her and let her know how that makes you feel, hopefully she will understand. If not, paint your toes any damn color you want they're your toes haha!
WOW!! What a nice friend ..not! If it makes you feel any better I was in a wedding where the bride wanted all the bridesmaids to look like strippers..fake hair, fake nails fake eyelashes (I only said yes to the fake eyelashes nothing else)
Weird. Was she joking based off the look on your face maybe? That's a weird thing to say even if it were true.
Regardless, I would rock the neon yellow nails (doesn't sound that bad to me) and the stranger color combos. She can't make you look ugly, she can only make her own tastes look ugly. Everyone knows the brides picks all that out so it will only reflect on her.
she will totally regret that! wow. I'd show up with whatever nails you want personally. This is a bit much.
Not to mention - if a BM is physically more attractive then she is, the color of her nails isn't going to make the bride looking prettier! ;)
My bridal consultant told me of a girl who threatened to shave off her girls' eyebrows to make them look ridiculous next to her. She told me the girl was only half joking and fully intended to do something malicious. Yikes, I can't believe girls are like that!
Ok she needs a psych because obviously she is so insecure with how she will look that she will sabotage her bridesmaids so she looks better next to you. This is very very sad.
I'm sure you will look lovely either way! People will understand that those choices were hers, not yours. Having beautiful bridesmaids only accentuates the bride. Everyone would be looking at her anyway so I don't understand the need to go that far with it. To each his own I guess...I'd just rock it harder than you've ever rocked and outfit before ;)
The dress is very flattering on me because I picked it myself. It's a nice halter. I like teal, but I just think the teal and dark gray are pretty dark for a summer wedding. But like I said, that's her wedding and I'm able to brush it off.
I'm definitely distancing myself from her after the wedding. She's been making me feel bad because I'm not married yet so I "wouldn't understand" things, I've been spending so much money on her wedding and her demands are ridiculous but I grin and bear it, and just general Bridezilla meltdown behavior. Like for her Bachelorette, she demanded we paid for EVERYTHING (we're talking all her meals, drinks, attractions, shopping over a 3 day period, as well as bring snacks so she can eat every hour, etc.)
I just feel very tired, is all.
I was going to get a classy French manicure before she told me about the neon yellow. I just don't know what I should do now. If I get my nails painted yellow, she will be happy but I won't. But it's her wedding. >.<
She's already invited me to a housewarming party in October. x.x
That's annoying, but I think the bigger question is whether you should stay friends with someone like that. I'd probably drop out of the wedding to be honest. That's just obnoxious.
jokes on her, you guys will look silly in pictures if it is that bad.
This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. And the other things you're describing make it sound like this girl is seriously off her rocker.
I would force myself through this wedding, but then distance myself afterwards. I can't imagine even dreaming of doing any of these things to another friend.
@metalbride: I'm pretty sure if someone shaved my eyebrows off, I would die. Or kill them. And then die. Something like that. x.x
@totheislnds: I think you're right. I'll just pretend like I love it and it's the best fashion decision I've ever made. ;)
@PixelMePretty: Thank you for making me feel better. I forget that it will reflect HER tastes and not my own.
Sometimes, loved ones have moments of temporary insanity due to teh stress of the wedding then go back to their normal selves aftewards. Other times, sadly, they show their true colors when push comes to shove. I hope your friend is just insane for the moment :(
Honestly I'd pull the bride aside and have a gentle but very serious talk about how her choice of words is making you and some of the other bridesmaids feel about their friendship. Give her the benefit of the doubt--- she's read too many wedding magazines and spent too much time watching wedding-related reality shows, and now she's gone a little off the rails. She needs a reality check. But you have to be kind and gentle about it, because if she's already off the rails, she might not take your feedback kindly. You have every right to be upset and hurt because honestly she sounds quite over-the-top, but give her the benefit of the doubt, in hopes that you might be able to salvage the friendship.
But be prepared to suffer through the wedding and just walk away afterwards.
What if you did yellow with a design on it? She didn't say you couldn't have a design...(and I wouldn't ask so she can't say no). It might make them look a little nicer.
I saw a couple of pics to give you an idea:
http://www.swatchandlearn.com/nail-art-black-yellow-konadicure-using-china-glaze-yellow-polka-dot-bikini-bundle-monster-image-plate-bm-208/
http://carmenspolishednails.wordpress.com/2012/05/14/31-week-challenge-week-3-yellow-nails/31-week-yellow-nails-4/
For what it's worth, I think she's crazy.
And alternatively, I would "forget" to get my nails done and just have clear polish. Or I'd say screw you and do what I want.
I feel sorry for the bride. She clearly has some kind of esteem issue if she wants to sabotage her bridesmaids in any sort of fashion.
Honestly, I would suck it up and do it.
Get your french manicure. Seriously. She doesn't get to dictate your nail color.
lollllllllll WOW.
I should show this to my aunt. She was telling me the other day that she hoped that I wasn't going to turn into a bridezilla and demand that my bridemaids can't be prettier than me.
As long as everything fits well, and is neat, you won't look ugly! If were you, would try to rock the look as much as I could. Get a good manicure; I've seen some beautiful nails in "out there" colors. Good foundation/makeup, a simple neat bun or chignon, a dress that fits well (and you like!) a good manicure...the colors can be traffic cone orange and poo brown, you're still going to look good :)
That said, I can't imagine how she won't regret this while looking back at photos.
Obviously, your hair won't be blue, but this photo of Katy Perry is what I imagine the look to be-
http://www.blogcdn.com/main.stylelist.com/media/2011/06/katy-perry-yellow-nail-polish240do060911.jpg
Actually the girl that works in the spa here loves colored french manicures and tried to convince me to do one but it just would not have lasted till my wedding. OPI and china glaze has some really cool colours take a look.
Yellow nail polish is actually super trendy right now and I think yellow and teal can go nicely if you have the right shades. I would just buy a yellow from the drug store and paint them myself though and then I wouldn't feel bad taking it off right after if it was not my idea of cute.
Dont forget to throw in some yellow eyeshadow to match that manicure. Tell her you wanted to coordinate. =P
Wow... I feel horrible for you. Like some other Bees have said; you should take the bride aside for a heart to heart talk. If it doesn't get remedied; you'll forever be in her wedding and wedding memories and if you plan on distancing yourself; she'll never really have a clue. Likewise if she's not that important of a friend; then why spend that much money and time to be her BM?
As a past bride; I know I'd be really sad to look at pictures from my wedding and not be talking or friends with any one of my BMs....
Wow. If it was me, I'd be tempted to get the worst hairdo and most unflattering makeup imaginable, and make myself look as horrible as possible. Get some blue eyeshadow and paint on some blow-up-doll lips, and wear like 6 Bumpits. :D
Agreed! I just did a google image search for yellow teal color combinations and a lot of great photos came up...trendy and fun, not scary!
Ugh I really don't get women like this - I'd bet you any amount of money that in 10 years she is going to look back at her pictures and regret that she asked people to look ridiculous.
I would firmly but diplomatically tell her that while you support her wedding you are going to paint your nails how you want. A french manicure goes with EVERYTHING and seriously, is she paying for your manicure? No, which is all the reason to do what you want. If she gets pissed just blow it off, she just seems in that crazy bridezilla state where nothing you say or do is going to be acceptable anyway.
Screw her and get your nails painted what you want. Enough is enough.
That bride is sick and it's sad that she is so insecure with herself she feels the need to take it out on those she is supposed to care about the most...I feel bad for her (to some extent!)...I wouldn't be a bridesmaid if she legiimately stated she doesn't want you to be pretty standing next to her... that's f***** up!
@Torrid: Lol wow. She will regret her wedding photos!!!
I think the day of her wedding you should all wear brown paper bags over your heads and film her reaction!
Sorry ladies for not replying right away; WeddingBee sometimes will log me out and then when I try to log back in, it just refreshes without logging me in.
Anyway, I do think that teal and yellow does have the potential to look good, but not when it looks like
@pomegranate17: 's picture of Katy Perry's super bright yellow and super noticeable with dark teal and silver shoes and peach flowers. I guess I'm just not seeing the vision.
But I'm trying to stay as positive as possible now that my initial *rage* has blown over, but I'm still very irritated. I don't approve of the wedding as it is (he broke up with her because she was controlling and then they got back together because he felt guilty about the money spent) and every little thing just adds to my discontentment. At first, I was a little jealous, I can admit, and that faded quickly because of the relationship problems. But now I'm just ready for everything to be over.
Everyone else that I've talked to that has been a bridesmaid loved it because their bride was very helpful and helped with either hair/makeup or the dress, or asked for their opinions.
I DID send her a picture with the color next to the dress and she blew me off. Whatevz.
Thank you all for being so supportive. I really appreciate it.
I hope she was kidding! If not, wow, what a nut job to say something like that. You should tell her that her bridesmaids' beauty is a direct reflection of her own and the worse you all look it will only make her look bad. After all, everyone knows it's her taste that determines how you all look, for the most part. So if she forces you all to look bad it makes her look as though she has bad taste.
That said, I think you should rock it and determine to be a 10 that day. A lot of beauty comes from an inside glow, anyway. Follow through with her wishes but put your own special twist on it to make sure you look as hot and beautiful as possible. Post pics after the wedding, lol.
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