Post # 1
I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding that in a few days.
I’ve already had problems with the amount of money she’s been wanting us to spend, but that’s another story. Anyway…
The dresses are dark teal. The other dominate color is gray. Okay, not my favorite for a summer wedding, but it’s her wedding and I get that. So I brushed it off.
Well she’s been very controlling about what kind of curls we can and can’t have in our hair, no braids, no this, no that, etc.
OKAY, I brushed that off and I am getting the most bland updo there can be.
THEN today she stopped by my house and informed me that the bouquets are peach colored…and she wants me to paint my nails NEON YELLOW. NEON YELLOW. WHY?!
She told me to face that all the bridesmaid will be wearing neon colors (with dark teal dresses and silver shoes) because SHE DOESN’T US TO BE PRETTY STANDING NEXT TO HER.
I’m so pissed you can’t even imagine. I understand that it’s her wedding, but I’m LIVID. I’m not ugly and I don’t want to look ugly, not even for her. What a “friend.”
Sorry, I just had to rant. 🙁
Post # 3
Well if it makes you feel better my sister painted her nails neon yellow the other day just for the hell of it. Then again she’s a teenager.
Honestly, that does not sound like the type of girl I would want to be friends with. That kind of a statement – from a bride to someone who should be a very close friend – is pretty eye opening. I would just do it and then distance yourself from this friend.
Post # 4
Wow, that’s so ridiculous. When she grows up in a few years, she’s going to regret doing this, because her wedding pictures are going to look so bad!
Post # 5
I’d tell her to shove it up her ass. I’m rude like that though. My thing is, do I want to look back at my gorgeous wedding album in 10 years and see my nearest and dearest looking “ugly”? Frick no! I want to look back at my photos and see my best friends having fun, looking gorgeous, enjoying this momentous occasion in my life.
Le sigh. Some people!
Post # 6
I would just try to laugh about it instead of getting mad…she’s the one who will look ridiculous if she’s fussing about things like your nail color…
I think dark teal is a lovely color, though, and would look good on many people. Does the dress flatter your figure?
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
She’s the one who will have to live with those pictures! She’s going to look back at them and regret it, I think. I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone like that though.
Post # 8
That’s INSANE! She must have a complex then… I know as a bride I want my BM’s to feel as pretty as possible that day. I would talk to her and let her know how that makes you feel, hopefully she will understand. If not, paint your toes any damn color you want they’re your toes haha!
Post # 9
WOW!! What a nice friend ..not! If it makes you feel any better I was in a wedding where the bride wanted all the bridesmaids to look like strippers..fake hair, fake nails fake eyelashes (I only said yes to the fake eyelashes nothing else)
Post # 10
Weird. Was she joking based off the look on your face maybe? That’s a weird thing to say even if it were true.
Regardless, I would rock the neon yellow nails (doesn’t sound that bad to me) and the stranger color combos. She can’t make you look ugly, she can only make her own tastes look ugly. Everyone knows the brides picks all that out so it will only reflect on her.
Post # 11
she will totally regret that! wow. I’d show up with whatever nails you want personally. This is a bit much.
Not to mention – if a BM is physically more attractive then she is, the color of her nails isn’t going to make the bride looking prettier! 😉
Post # 12
My bridal consultant told me of a girl who threatened to shave off her girls’ eyebrows to make them look ridiculous next to her. She told me the girl was only half joking and fully intended to do something malicious. Yikes, I can’t believe girls are like that!
Post # 13
Ok she needs a psych because obviously she is so insecure with how she will look that she will sabotage her bridesmaids so she looks better next to you. This is very very sad.
Post # 14
I’m sure you will look lovely either way! People will understand that those choices were hers, not yours. Having beautiful bridesmaids only accentuates the bride. Everyone would be looking at her anyway so I don’t understand the need to go that far with it. To each his own I guess…I’d just rock it harder than you’ve ever rocked and outfit before 😉
Post # 15
The dress is very flattering on me because I picked it myself. It’s a nice halter. I like teal, but I just think the teal and dark gray are pretty dark for a summer wedding. But like I said, that’s her wedding and I’m able to brush it off.
I’m definitely distancing myself from her after the wedding. She’s been making me feel bad because I’m not married yet so I “wouldn’t understand” things, I’ve been spending so much money on her wedding and her demands are ridiculous but I grin and bear it, and just general Bridezilla meltdown behavior. Like for her Bachelorette, she demanded we paid for EVERYTHING (we’re talking all her meals, drinks, attractions, shopping over a 3 day period, as well as bring snacks so she can eat every hour, etc.)
I just feel very tired, is all.
I was going to get a classy French manicure before she told me about the neon yellow. I just don’t know what I should do now. If I get my nails painted yellow, she will be happy but I won’t. But it’s her wedding. >.<
She’s already invited me to a housewarming party in October. x.x
Post # 16
That’s annoying, but I think the bigger question is whether you should stay friends with someone like that. I’d probably drop out of the wedding to be honest. That’s just obnoxious.