Bride wants Vegas bachelorette party

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@hollyberry4:  I would get in touch with the other bridesmaids and check out their interest. I doubt that you’re the only one that doesn’t want to spend a lot of money on a destination party. I think a beach weekend sounds awesome. You could rent a cute little condo by the beach…the possibilities are endless. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@hollyberry4:  nope – you’ll end up annoyed and resenting her. the bachelorette party is a gift to her she shouldn’t be hinting (or outright asking) for something so extravagant. 

i’d let her know that you’ll take it under advisement but that due to everyone’s finances (and schedules!) you hope she’ll be happy with whatever you plan for her, you’re so excited to be able to do this for her and you loved what she did for you. 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I went through something similar with a friend.  I suggest planning the fun, exciting weekend you can afford to do (happily), and if she wants a vegas party let her plan it.  There’s no sense in you breaking the bank for a weekend you’ll regret and resent her for.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

After checking with the BMs about what they would like to do and host…most likely jot a weekend in Vegas. Firmly go back to the bride and tell her Vegas is out. Ask her for a night or weekend she is available. Then surprise with some really good fun where you live.

Is the bride into spooky stuff? Baltimore has haunted city tours at night. That and a fortune teller could be big fun.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@hollyberry4:  I know it’s not the same at all, but why not do a weekend in Atlantic city? You can have a casino and club and dinner maybe see a show? Plus the beach is an option. I went to a bachelorette party there and we used a groupon for the hotel And saved a lot with it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@hollyberry4:  This is the 2nd post I’ve read this morning about a bride with outrageous expectations.

NO. And flat out tell her you wouldn’t be able to afford such a trip and leave it at that.   Her wedding is her day, but this expensive wedding lead up is insane and very self-centered.  YOU plan to party, not her. 

1. BM’s cannot afford this type of weekend (and if they wanted to save for a trip, is it most deinitely not a bachelorette trip)

2. It takes vacation time, and many bees would rather spend that time with their own families 

3. It’s inconsiderate of the bride if you live no where near Vegas

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

@tampalove35:  Yep, that other thread BLEW UP, too.

Vegas is super fun, yes. (So are beach weekends!) But what about getting a sense of what the bridesmaids can afford before making this decision? If everyone is psyched! to spend lots of money… go to Vegas. If they don’t want to spend more than a certain amount, let that guide you.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@hollyberry4:  Atlantic City beach is kind of gross depending on what part of AC you’re in, but I also find that Ocean City (the beach, maybe not…but OC itself) is kinda gross too. Just my opinion, lol. I don’t go over there anymore, the traffic is NOT worth it. Last time DH and I were there it took us 7 hours to make the 2 hour trip. NOPE.

Atlantic City could be a fun alternative, and you could potentially wander into Cape May and stay at a nice B&B if you wanted to do something like that? That way you’re not staying in AC proper if you don’t want to?

I’d talk with the other bridesmaids and run the AC alternative by your bride. I understand her wanting to do a big shindig, but if it’s not in your budgets for cash or vacation time, it’s not, and she should be open to comprimise or pay for it all herself. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@hollyberry4:  I live in NJ… can you make a trip to Atlantic City?  I know it’s nowhere near what Vegas is, but maybe it will give her same feeling (and be A LOT less expensive!). There are great bars, shows, beaches, etc. in AC! 

Honestly, if you cant afford it…you cant afford it. Would I have loved to go to Vegas for my bachelorette?  Of course. Could all my bridesmaids afford it? Nope… so that wasnt even an option. We are doing a fun beach weekend in Ocean City, MD instead. 

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@hollyberry4:  No. Do not suck it up and go someplace none of you can afford. I don’t see why brides tell the MOH where they must go; didn’t that used to be the MOH’s decision?!

Anyway, I say you all sit her down and discuss how it cannot happen. And advise her that you will plan something fun that she’ll love. 

The bride wanted us all to go to DR, and only 1 out of 5 of us went. Plus she had a horrible time. 

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