Bride without a ride to her own bachelorette

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If your friend that you were supposed to fly hasn’t responded after several trys, there’s no shame in booking a flight without her. I would go ahead and do it. Maybe leave/send her one last message today saying “Hey I have to book the flight today so if I don’t hear back from you I’m going to have to book without you.”

Post # 4
Member
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@GoodbyeMissHelloMrs1:  Hey, don’t fret! Just tellthem what your plan is (and it has changed). Give your friend a deadline to let you know and if she doesn’t let you know then you will book the flight you are lookingat. Just let the girls know – I’m sure it will work it 🙂

Post # 6
Member
3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Even if you’re getting a cheap flight, wouldn’t it still probably be more expensive than taking a day off from work? Who planned the party? Is there any way you could plan something local that would be much cheaper? It sounds like money is tight for both you and the rest of the bridesmaids.

Post # 7
Member
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@cmbr:  +1. Sounds like rescheduling to a local venue would be a good choice for all.

Post # 9
Member
7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@cmbr:  +1 I would think that the silent and aversion treatment is making it clear that they think the trip is too expensive or extravagent. I would change the BP to a local event. that way no one has to take time off or incur high expenses.

Post # 11
Member
4440 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@GoodbyeMissHelloMrs1: I wouldn’t fly to a bach party…period. I think your friends are telling you by not telling you…change your plans!

Post # 12
Member
7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@GoodbyeMissHelloMrs1:  I am really sorry but it really bugs me when people say things like “revaluating some of my life long friends right now cause I really didn’t think this was the type of thing you put a set price on” when they are talking about other peoples money and a party.

Sorry but friends are understanding that not everyone has the money (even $60) to spend on someone elses bachelorette party. It has nothing to do with how good a friend they are or how much they love you. It is your wedding so I get that you are excited about and have expectations around it but they are your expectations and your excitement. Honestly I would rather spend $60 on tyres for my car than a friends bachelorette party because I need tyres and I only want to party with my friends.

As I said in my earlier statement given that things started going off the rails as soon as the expenses came up should give you an indication thatthey can’t afford to spend this money on your party.  You could stillhave a great night out locally for under $30.

 

Post # 13
Member
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@GoodbyeMissHelloMrs1:  No offense meant, but just because you were able to spend that amount for someone else’s bachelorette, doesn’t mean thry can/want to/should spend that on yours. Their situation may have changed, you know? 

Post # 14
Member
7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@GoodbyeMissHelloMrs1:  Friendships shouldn’t be tit for tat. Just because you chose to spend that moeny on someone else does not mean they are obligated to do so in return. You could have said no at anytime.

BTW I don’t think your friends are being very mature by ignoring you. I think they need to step up and tell you the truth about not beign able to afford it (if that is the reason).

Post # 16
Member
1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

The minute you are referring to yourself as THE BRIDE in all caps, you’ve lost your argument.

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