- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
A friend of mine and I are both getting married soon, and are bridesmaids in each others’ weddings. For her wedding, she initially asked all of the bridesmaids to just to find any dress that was about knee-length and in her wedding color, “light teal” (it’s what I’d call aqua, although not the very bright shade of aqua). She said that the only thing she really wanted was for us each to be able to wear our dresses again.
Personally I hate aqua, especially on me, and I knew if I bought something I’d never wear it again. So I asked the bride if I could rent a dress instead – it would cost me about the same, and I wouldn’t be stuck with an aqua dress. I told her I would absolutely wear whatever she wanted, but that I was never going to re-wear “light teal”, so this would be better for me. I sent her some links to dresses on Rent the Runway, and she said that either of the two I liked best would be fine.
A month or so goes by, and the Maid/Matron of Honor and another Bridesmaid or Best Man are having trouble finding dresses, so the bride lets them pick out dresses that are in the color family, but not exactly light teal. They buy dresses in different colors. The bride looks at their dresses, and then asks me not to rent a dress, because it will be designer and expensive and “too nice” compared to theirs. Fine. I ask the bride if I can wear a darker teal that suits my complexion better, since we’ll be a range of colors now anyway. She agrees, and we find a cheap dress I already own that will work.
Now that we all have differing dresses (the 4th Bridesmaid or Best Man tells the bride she’s buying something and will send pics when she has them – she’s long-distance), the bride asks that we get similar shoes – preferably black wedges (the wedding is outdoors on grass) with peep-toes. I find some on sale from Amazon and purchase.
Then, today, the 4th Bridesmaid or Best Man sends a picture of her shoes. These:
And she sends a link to her dress, which was like $300. The bride is completely fine with both. WTF?
I don’t even like black peep-toe wedges, I’d’ve had some already if I did. Also I don’t think they go with my dress at all. But I didn’t want to complain. But now I’m super annoyed that the 4th Bridesmaid or Best Man gets to look like a fashion plate while I look like a broke grad student with no taste in shoes. 🙁