(Closed) Bride/Groom didn't buy wedding party gifts…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

While it is totally rude and not in keeping with proper etiquette for him not to do that, I’m not so sure I would mention it again if I were you. IMO, it’s always awkward to bring up other people’s breaches of etiquette. Like, if a wedding guest didn’t bring a gift, that’s an etiquette gaff, but mentioning it to them is even more awkward and kind of inappropriate. I would just take the high road on this one if I were you. Water under the bridge.

Post # 4
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think I would’ve said anything…a thank you would have been nice, but if you have to ask for a thank you note, doesn’t that take away from it if he decides to give you one?

Post # 5
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@AdriannaJean:  +1  Mentioning his non-gifting/thank-you note etiquette breach is a violation of etiquette itself.  

Post # 6
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think of it this way…. Your friend definitely should have bought you a gift. No question about it. Even a small token probably would have meant a great deal to you! However, he didn’t. Asking him to get you a gift now isn’t going to change that fact and chances are if he gave you a gift now, you would feel like it was only because you asked. Not exactly fulfilling anyway. I would just try to move on, honestly. At this point if he gets you something it’s just because he “has to” not out of his true appreciation, so that kind of defeats the purpose anyway, doesn’t it? Unfortunately there’s not a ton you can do, but I totally get why you are a bit frustrated.

Post # 8
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You pointed it out to him and now let it go. It isn’t your job to help him gets gifts and even if you think it rude it is possible that it wasn’t an oversight and he perhaps has no intentions on getting you guys gifts for whatever reason.

Again the token and wedding centric gifts I recieved eventually all end up in the trash. So I prefer a thank rather then a gift. But everyone is different.

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