Post # 1
I am just looking for any advice to get my bridesmaid and Maid/Matron of Honor to help out for my wedding? They have been sort of absent, and I have tried to include them or ask them for help, but nothing seems to help.
Post # 3
Are you asking them to do specific things? I think that definitely helps! I was a bridesmaid recently and she was kind of vague about our responsibilities until right up to the big day, so maybe they don’t know what you need help with!
Post # 4
have you asked why they aren’t helping you much? My Maid/Matron of Honor was having an issue with one of my BM’s because she wasn’t really helping them and they talked to her and she thought that the BM’s weren’t that involved and that the mom did most of the stuff(past weddings she was involved with).
Do they understand what you expect from them?
Post # 5
I would make more specific requests like Hey guys I really need some help with putting the invitations together would this weekend or next week work out for you. Maybe asking for help with a specific job at a specific point in time will work.
Post # 6
I have found that if they are given a specific task and timeline, they do much better.
Post # 7
I find it more so that you have to ask them to do a certain thing and not expect them to just help. I myself dont like to tell people what to do but when it comes to my wedding I dont really care that I have to tell them what to do just be nice about it and if they dont respond to nice bring out the sassiness : )
Post # 8
When I was choosing bridesmaids, I made it clear to them the responsibilies to make sure they were up for the task. I have tried delegating tasks, such as this week work on invitations, or even just ask for their opinions on certain things. Maybe I need to be more clear on what needs to be done, and choose an exact time? I just dont want to come across as a bridezilla..
Thanks for the advice
Post # 9
@JennyS being a bridezilla is not bad when your the one being it lol
Post # 10
Hey, I know exactly how you feel, its not fun, but I think everyone is right if you ask them specifically they will step up. However, I always dreamt of having bridesmaids that were just into it… O well!