Post # 1
I have a friend that I work with that I have considered having in my wedding. The only two things holding me back are A) she has a lot of tattoos and I am not big into tattoos… can I ask her to cover them? Or is that really rude? B) I don’t want to ask her to be a bridesmaid if it is going to be a financial burden on her. But I also would feel bad helping with her costs and not the other BMs but I can’t afford to help everyone. Any advice or ideas? Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I think it’s a bit touchy to ask a friend to cover up her tattoos. They are a part of who she is and if they are significant or meaningful to her, asking her to cover them up may be a bit of a slap in the face.
Since you have these doubts, I would suggest not asking her to be in your wedding. There are so many crazy stories about unexpected bridesmaid drama – many people don’t expect it to come down to that, but weddings can bring out the worst in people!
Post # 4
Do you know that she would have financial difficulty? If the tatoos bother you, I guess I would also lean towards not asking her. If you have some kind of argument (as brides and BMs sometimes do), you’ll still have to work with her. That could be a little awkward.
Post # 5
If you are having these reservations, honestly I would probably not ask her. It could be difficult to ask her to cover her tattoos and loving her means loving her body art. As for cost, if you think the cost will be too much for her, it’s better to not ask. Both of those issues could lead to some big arguments down the road and if not asking her to be a BM makes that not happen, then think about all the stress you wouldn’t have to deal with.