(Closed) Brides Across America

posted 5 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Good program, but I do wish it considered all deployments.  

Post # 4
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I do too. I feel like this program is geared more toward the “boots on the ground” services; it really alienates sailors, Navy and Coast Guard alike who deploy on cutters or ships 4-9months at a time. Just because one is stationed in San Diego, or Norfolk, or Mayport doesn’t mean that they just chill there in port all day long; they go out to sea. And more often than not they go to 1 or more of the places on that list; As I recall Osama Bin Laden’s burial at sea was off of the USS Carl Vinson, and aircraft carrier. On the flipside, you can have a sailor on shore duty in Japan living it up…. How is he or she more deserving of that dress than the sea going but CONUS based sailor?

Post # 5
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873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@NaijaPuertoDorian:  Yeah, the Japan thing was what really confused me.  I’d understand a little more if they limited it to just combat  deployments (I wouldn’t agree, but I’d understand the though process).  As it is, it’s kind of a random selection.

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Combat deployments still apply to Navy ships too. 5th fleet is considered a combat deployment and earns the same pay rights as tax free, hazardous duty pay, etc. It sucks brides across america doesn’t honor that. Especially after I just went through two deployment extensions in 5th fleet.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@thursdayschild:  Thats what starrynight and I are saying. The Navy doesn’t typically do shore deployments (barring IA’s, Individual Augmentees). A strike group from 3rd fleet may do a 9 month combat tour, and go to bahrain, japan, the persian gulf etc, but because they have orders to a ship homeported in San Diego, instead of those individual countries as a shore based servicemen would, they are effectively “barred” from capitalizing the Brides Across America program. Whereas a sailor stationed in Japan or Bahrain would have orders to there, and could employ the program. Sailors do not get “orders” to the countries they stop in when their ship deploys, which is why this program isn’t fair to forward deployed sailors

 

 

@dancingriss:  Ma’am (i remember you stating you were an officer on another post), you should be eligible for the program! As long as you have orders to your command in 5th fleet, you should be good to go! 5th fleet is out of Bahrain, right? Even if you were TAD i’m sure those orders will suffice!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@NaijaPuertoDorian:  Yeah, I get what you’re saying, but being stationed there and being depoyed to there (like the Seabees do, for example) are two separate things.

I get that sailors who just stop by Japan during a ship deployment don’t get the priviledge of using the program but (to my understanding) any sailor stationed there doesn’t either.

It sucks and it’s a bit discriminatory I guess. Maybe take it to BAA and see what they say. Why knows why they chose to draw the line at those particular countries.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m pretty sure that a sailor stationed there still would, as I don’t think that BAA would really be “in the know” enough to differentiate in between deployed vs stationed. As long as a bride or groom has a copy of orders for the countries listed, they should be good to go! I am going to ask BAA though, about its sea going servicemen!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@thursdayschild:  That’s still what I meant.  The PP did a good job of explaining the issues with the Navy, but my DH is Air Force, has deployed five times, and I still wouldn’t have qualified, because of where his deployments were.  And let me tell you, I’d take a four month typical Air Force deployment to Afghanistan over a year long deployment to Korea any day of the week, so it doesn’t even seem like BAA is considering the actual seperation.  I’m especially thinking of all the AFSOC personnel who deploy in some really hairy situations, yet they don’t qualify?  It’s just odd.  Who knows.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I didn’t realize they were such sticklers on what qualifies as a deployment. My fiance’s deployment qualified and I got a gorgeous dress. It was an incredible experience and definitely helped ease the gloominess, as I was getting my dress the very day my fiance was leaving for Afghanistan. I think it was the specific bridal shop (European Bridal in Ohio) I went to though that made it such a great experience verses the actual program itself.

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