Brides & Married Bees!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
30313 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@KatiePi:  6 weeks sounds exactly right to what i experienced! And yes, father of the bride, wine, and a whole lot of tears definitely happened. 🙂  I’ll tell you, in the final week before our wedding, I was a mess and totally helpless to everything.  My husband found me in a puddle crying over our seating chart (like literally, just the board that the names go on) and had to finish it for me.  And then, we promptly made appointments to go to the spa the next day. Haha.  I’ll tell you, the spa totally helped.  It definitely helps to take a day and say “you know what? Our wedding is going to be beautiful. We’re marrying each other, and we are so happy about this.  Nothing else will matter” TOTALLY helps!  Hugs to you, I promise you can get through it! 😀

Post # 4
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@KatiePi:  oh yeah…. I definitely had to apologize to my best friend (and only friend actually coming/invited to the wedding) about 3 weeks before my wedding. I also probably owe some salon workers a sorry too. Just wait until things start going wrong the weekend before you get married (something will) and you too will end up in a puddle of tears on the floor (for me it was standing with my arms hanging and head back bawling like a two year old!) and your husbnad-to-be will have to pick you up and make things better. But that’s when you have to think about how this is the man that is going to pick you up and make you feel better for the rest of your life, and you two can get through anything together, and as long as you’re with each other nothing else really matters.

I think for you it will be a tricky Christmas season because I always find that stresseful anyways. Figure out something that calms you and do it often!

Post # 6
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1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KatiePi:  

1) 2 weeks before. I was like you, very happy about getting married, but SOOO annoyed with wedding things. My phone was constantly beeping with small queries and I was working full time right up until HOURS before we left for our destination wedding. I was close to tears and kinda regretted not eloping, which is much more my style. I was mad that the wedding was taking up so much of my time when I didn’t even really care about the stupid thing. 

2) I hit the gym with my very limited free time. When I was at work, I threw myself into my job. This wasn’t hard, as my job demands my full attention most of the day. I cried to my fiancé, who patted my head and laughed. This last one didn’t really help, but then I would demand a good hug which did help. He’s very good at sorting out the essential things from the non essentials too, so that also helped. I hid out at home too, I like alone time anyways and I didn’t want anyone to get the wrong idea, ya know?

I also watched wedding shows and cried at them, seems like I’m not alone there. 

But the wedding was great, in the end it was worth it. It was excellent to have all of our favorite people together! Also, everything came together perfectly. That was nice, but I truly didn’t care about the details. The rest of the week was awesome too. 

Hugs, it’s going to be ok! 🙂 Soon it will all be over, and you’ll have beautiful photos and a husband.

Post # 7
Hostess
30313 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@KatiePi:  That’s a great idea! Make sure to take time to relax!

Post # 8
Member
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

Find something to manage stress. I like yoga. Or maybe some wine!

Post # 9
Member
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@KatiePi:  I still have a little over 6 months left and haven’t got into that stage, but my best friend def has! LOL! She is less than a week from her big day so yeah hehe.

Post # 10
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975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

About a month before our wedding I hit the “I don’t care anymore” wall.

Really, if it wasn’t done or didn’t happen I didn’t care.  The important stuff was done and I was just over the whole planning thing :).  That was my managing… place check, officiant check, clothes check, license check… yeah we’re good.  A lot more than that was done at that point but those were the “have to haves”… everything else was extra (great but extra). 

But everything worked out fine.  Even with the horrible florist my mom picked giving us PINK bouts (one of the I don’t really care and you’re unreliable so you can do this things and she was willing to pay for all bouts/corsages so she could have one)… when my only requirement was they they were any shade of purple from middle to bluish but NOT PINK.  They were pastel pink. :/  Luckily the florist I insisted do the bouquet made new ones while we waited.  Awesome local place.

But other than “not pink flowers” I didn’t care about anything after a month out.  Even the music which was DH’s job… I didn’t even care if we had music at that point… he didn’t do til a week out and had to pester me to give voice after he picked stuff… I did go through and veto a few and then we added some more and it was fun… but yea he had to pester me to participate at that point.

Getting in shape fell by the wayside.  I was working extra hours doing way above my job and learning as I went in a very unforgiving work place.  Planning a wedding (and I’m NOT a girly girl… Thank goodness for my best friend who IS girly!).  I wanted to, but didn’t have the time, literally, and just accepted it… he wanted to marry me like this so be it lol… I wasn’t  fat though I did feel like it but was really just a little overweight.  I certainly wasn’t in shape nor where I wanted to be!  And I’m fine with not being in the best shape on wedding day, even now.  I figure if nothing else I can go “Look at how much better I look now!”. 🙂

Post # 12
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306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KatiePi:  I hit the fed up/emotional point at 4 weeks out. We planned our wedding from 1800 miles away (we live in TX but are both from NJ, so we figured it would be easier to have the wedding in NJ with all our family and friends), and the distance really started to take its toll. Any time a friend or family member even mentioned the wedding I’d get irrationally angry and be like “I don’t even want to talk about it.” I was so stressed I got to the point where I wasn’t eating or sleeping properly.

My best advice is to not sweat the small stuff. Take lots of hot baths, light candles, watch your favorite movies, do anything that will relax you and keep your mind in a calm place. Try not to overthink things! Everything will go off perfectly and you’ll have an amazing day, trust me!  🙂

Post # 14
Member
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KatiePi:  Grading sounds good though, it’s something else to keep your mind off of wedding stress!  😉

Post # 15
Member
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I sooooo dont feel like an idiot for breaking down 2 weeks ago and bawling my eyes out watching Father of the Bride and pigging out on carbs.

Post # 16
Member
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@missaliam:  Great movie lol!

I kept my shit together until after the wedding and had pretttttyyy much a mental breakdown on the honeymoon. Sigh. Best to get it over with beforehand I guess!

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