Post # 1
I was just wondering how many of us bees are NOT getting married in a church?
Both FI and I have decided against it for SEVERAL reasons.
Last night my parents decided to share their dissapproval. It took a lot of strength to not tell them what I think about the church and organized religion. Poor FI just sat there with his mouth shut.
The funniest part about it is that they didn’t even get married in a church!
Any other bees in the same boat?
Post # 3
I was married in my living room. We’re very active in our church. We just wanted an intimate and inexpensive environment.
Post # 4
We are DEFINITELY not getting married in a church. =D
My family asked that we have a prayer said over our union to bless it in the eyes of God or something since were getting married in a movie theater and I flat out said no. I don’t want to feel uncomfortable/ don’t want my FI to feel uncomfortable or the guests…. I think it was the first thing I ever truly stood up for myself without listening to the opinions of others.
Post # 5
I’m not getting married in a church either! FI is Hindu and I am Catholic,,, so we decided to do a Hindu ceremony (which will be modified to fit with who we are). We’re getting married in a dance studio!!! Both of our mothers were a bit
Where are you and your FI getting married?
Post # 6
@tranquility: We are also not getting married in a church. My family is fine with it. I believe FIs family would prefer we got married in a church, but they have not said anything to us directly.
Post # 7
We’re not getting married in a church. We’re going to Vegas where we will have an outside gazebo wedding with a civil ceremony. Most of my family is Christian, however I am agnostic (meaning I don’t practice any religion). My FI considers himself to be a buddhist.
My family is part of the reason we decided to get married in Vegas with no guests. We want a hassle-free wedding ceremony and also this is saving us quite a bit of money. His family is already hasseling us about our decision to go to Vegas and not having a traditional wedding. This seems to be a pretty common thing and it’s a real shame that brides and grooms have to deal with this during what is supposed to be the happiest time of their lives!
Post # 8
We aren’t. Neither one of us or our families are very religious so it didn’t seem appropriate for us to put on an act and get married in a church. Annnnd, I’ve always wanted a beach wedding.
Post # 9
We’re not and my grandmother has refused to attend our wedding because of it. Neither of us attend church so there was no way we were giving in. FYI, my grandmother is on her 4th marriage.
Post # 9
We are getting married at our venue (a restaurant).
I just find it funny because my mom says that our marriage is doomed. But like I said, they never got married at a church! They don’t even go to church!
Post # 10
We’re not. We chose to get married in a beautiful park near by then have the reception at a hall. Were not really a religious family on either side.
Post # 11
You should add a poll!
We didn’t. We’re not religious people so it would have made no sense for us. We got married on the grass at our venue beside our reception area. It turns out that our officiant is actually a reverend which is sort of funny to me, but he’s a wonderful man who didn’t seem to mind marrying two heathens 😉 We’re still friends!
Post # 12
@tranquility: Just ignore your parents. Some people have to always have something to complain about. Don’t take the bait and maybe they’ll move on to something less offensive 😉 Sorry they’re being such jerks 🙁 ((hugs))
Post # 13
We did not get married in a Church either. We’re not religious in the least so we see no point in getting married in a church.
Ours was a casual outdoor ceremony which is more us.
ETA: I agree that you should do what is best for you and FI, not what your parents want you to! Is there any reason why they were not able to get married in a Church and perhaps want you to be able to? Just a thought?
I would say though that as odd as it sounds and hypocritical. If my husband’s maternal grandmother was still around we would have done a full Catholic ceremony for her. She was very religious and believed in the Catholic Church. I loved that woman and so did my husband. None of her grandkids were able to have a Catholic ceremony (both his brothers married someone who had been divorced) so we would liked to have given her that.
Post # 14
We are not getting married in a church. FI is an athiest and I am Anglican. Our ceremony will be non religious but my Grandpa is saying grace before dinner as a sort of compromise.
Post # 15
Arrrg… Edit: Half my posts keep disappearing. Just a seaside gazebo for us. No church and nothing religious, not even in our vows if we can make it that way.