- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Our small wedding is in less than 6 weeks, and we are 100% thrilled with our decision. we wanted a small wedding for lots of reasons.
One, Mr. LK and I prefer small gatherings and feel more comfortable at them.
Two, I have a huge family, but there are quite a few of them that I could really do without. Having a small wedding significantly decreased the family drama level. (Note: This didn’t eliminate ALL family dramaz, but it helped.)
Three, having a small wedding means that we can afford to pamper our guests, which is how we prefer to entertain. Our philospohy is “Do it right, or don’t do it at all.” Our other philosophy is “Pay in cash.” Our small wedding allowed us to fully embrace both philosophies simultaneously.
Four, a small wedding opened up a lot of venues that would otherwise be off limits. It also excluded a lot of the more wedding factory venues because we could not meet their minimums. I am NOT a wedding factory girl, so this worked well for me.
Five, a small wedding makes it a lot easier to accomodate the wishes of others without gutting your own vision and goals. Quite simply, with less people to please, planning is easier. It also helps that we are footing the vast majority of the budget ourselves, so we maintain complete creative control (see reason three).
Six, we will get to spend quality time with each and evry guest. We invited 34 and it looks like 31-32 of our invited guests will attend. With a group that small and an entire weekend to enjoy them, we are guaranteed to have long conversations with everyone. When you have people traveling across the country to be with you, it’s nice to know that you will actually have time to hug them and share a beer together.
Seven, I never fancied a big wedding. Every time we would go to a family wedding I would remind my mother that it was not what I wanted and she would be lucky if I didn’t just JOP it and tell her later. A small wedding is the perfect balance between my long-time JOP intentions and our families’ desires to share the moment with us.We won’t be overwhelmed or be guilted for the next few decades. WIN!