(Closed) Brides that had small weddings

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Welcome to the hive!

Mine is in less than 2 weeks and we are having a small wedding due to monetary reasons. We pushed up the wedding date so we did not have the finances for a big budget affair.

Post # 4
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I didn’t have it yet but I can share my insight.  I have a small family, which was a primary reason for having a small gathering.  Also, I think the whole day is about us, so I wanted to forgo the hullaballoo and stress that comes with entertaing 150 people.  I really wanted it to be just the two of us but he declined it.  We do get one day, but it doesnt compare to the rest of our lives, and to me thats the most important part.

But that’s just me

Post # 6
3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We were planning a 50-person wedding with most of the bells and whistles, but after a couple of major life changes (change in financial situation and the passing of my great-aunt), we decided to bump our wedding up almost an entire year and cut it down. We ended up going to the courthouse with our nearest and dearest, then had a restaurant reception with them plus a few friends and relatives who couldn’t make it to the ceremony.

Post # 8
1359 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We haven’t had ours yet either, but we’ll be having a 30 – 40 person wedding. Part of this was finances – we are trying to save for a house and didn’t want to blow our downpayment on a wedding. But we are also just more comfortable with an intimate environment. Neither of us wanted to be the center of attention, and though we weren’t at all interested in tradition, we did want to have a meaningful, fun day to mark the occassion. So a small wedding is perfect for us.

Post # 9
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re having a small wedding in about 5 days.. =) We decided on having a small wedding rather then a bigger on with more family and friends because it was right for our finances, our current lifestyle and the type of wedding that we wanted.. something small and simple. We’re having our ceremony in our backyard (we have a fairly big backyard) and our reception in a private dining room in a nice fine dining restaurant. very simple very small with only 18 guest (immediate family only). It worked out better because theirs been less stressed involved. Originally we were planning for a 60 guest wedding but it became too stressful and too expensive in the city. So we went with something that works for us. I just hope everything goes as planned and there are no “harsh” feelings with extended family members.. or at least if their is their nice to our face haha

Post # 10
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We had 54 guests at our wedding last year and it was perfect! Both my Darling Husband and I don’t have any extended family in Canada and so 54 people included our immediate family, a few extended family that flew over and all of our friends!!!

It was so perfect! On that day I could look around the room and see that everyone we love was in one place celebrating our love!

Our wedding still had all of the traditional elements of a big wedding on a small scale.

You can check out my recaps 1, 2, 2B, 3, 4, 5, 6 if you are interested!

Post # 11
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Our wedding was 55 people – I don’t know if that counts as small, but I’m happy to share!  There were several reasons. My Darling Husband HATES being the center of attention and big parties stress him out. He was also really opposed to spending a lot of money on a wedding. He would have been happy to elope, but I wanted my nearest and dearest there. We decided to have it at my mom’s house, both as a way to save money on a venue but also to keep the casual, intimate, this-is-just-a-party feeling.  And that also meant we had to keep the guest list small.

So we made a rule. No one invited who wasn’t emotionally close to at least one of us. This cut out parents’ friends, random coworkers, that girl you haven’t talked to in a year, and, for him, all his aunts, uncles, and cousins.  It was hard, but he has almost 30 aunts and uncles, and he’s not close to any of them. As in, never ever talkes to them at all. So it didn’t make sense for us to bump our guest list by 1/3 to 1/2 for people neither of us knows. And as for me, I have no aunts/uncles/cousins, so it was “fair” (no extended family invited) but I didn’t have to exclude anyone I cared about.

Our wedding was perfect. All the people who came were incredibly meaningful and important to us, and there was no one who made you say, “who on earth is that, and why did they just watch me say the most intimate and important words I’ll ever speak?”

Post # 12
2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re having a VERY small wedding… just the two of us!  We decided on eloping because we’ve both been married before, and didn’t care for all the hoopla of a big do.  Also, we wanted to focus on us, and our relationship, rather than stress about planning a big event.  We’re doing the dress/suit/bouquet/photog/cake/fancy dinner… everything except guests really. And, we got to splurge on ourselves!  During the week we’re away we’re going on a vineyard tour, spending a day at a spa, and taking a champagne helicopter tour!

Post # 13
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I just want to pop in and say that if Fiance and I didn’t have such HUGE families…we would have loved to have a small wedding. Our wedding is considered small at 300 people. My parents’ was 500 and my aunt’s was 650.

However, we plan on doing a vow renewal in 5-10 years and it will be TINY. probably just 4 guests- our best friends and their spouses. I love the idea of an extremely intimate affair, it is so romantic and meaningful.

Post # 14
7312 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Our small wedding is in less than 6 weeks, and we are 100% thrilled with our decision. we wanted a small wedding for lots of reasons.

One, Mr. LK and I prefer small gatherings and feel more comfortable at them.

Two, I have a huge family, but there are quite a few of them that I could really do without. Having a small wedding significantly decreased the family drama level. (Note: This didn’t eliminate ALL family dramaz, but it helped.)

Three, having a small wedding means that we can afford to pamper our guests, which is how we prefer to entertain. Our philospohy is “Do it right, or don’t do it at all.” Our other philosophy is “Pay in cash.” Our small wedding allowed us to fully embrace both philosophies simultaneously.

Four, a small wedding opened up a lot of venues that would otherwise be off limits. It also excluded a lot of the more wedding factory venues because we could not meet their minimums. I am NOT a wedding factory girl, so this worked well for me.

Five, a small wedding makes it a lot easier to accomodate the wishes of others without gutting your own vision and goals. Quite simply, with less people to please, planning is easier. It also helps that we are footing the vast majority of the budget ourselves, so we maintain complete creative control (see reason three).

Six, we will get to spend quality time with each and evry guest. We invited 34 and it looks like 31-32 of our invited guests will attend. With a group that small and an entire weekend to enjoy them, we are guaranteed to have long conversations with everyone. When you have people traveling across the country to be with you, it’s nice to know that you will actually have time to hug them and share a beer together.

Seven, I never fancied a big wedding. Every time we would go to a family wedding I would remind my mother that it was not what I wanted and she would be lucky if I didn’t just JOP it and tell her later.  A small wedding is the perfect balance between my long-time JOP intentions and our families’ desires to share the moment with us.We won’t be overwhelmed or be guilted for the next few decades. WIN!

Post # 15
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m having a small wedding in 3 days. 🙂 It will be 18 of us all together.

We decided to have a small wedding because we feel that our day should be shared only with those who truly love and support us. We didn’t want extended family members there that we only speak with MAYBE once a year. We want our wedding to be intimate and shared only with those who are closest to us.

Post # 16
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We had a very small wedding (about 14 guests) because it just felt more “us.”  The thought of planning a big wedding was very stressful and intimidating to me, not to mention expensive.  Also, we live far away from family and most friends and I didn’t want to put a ton of time, money, and energy into something big and only have 20 people show up.  We just wanted to keep it as simple and intimate as possible.  I have no regrets about our choice.  I mean, there are some people I wish we could’ve had there, but we did end up having a bigger reception a month later in a different state.  Between that and the wedding, most of the people we wanted to celebrate with us were able to.

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