(Closed) Brides traveling more than 80 KMs/ 50 miles (?) for work?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve had a job that was about about a 45 mile commute before, with 5 miles on normal road so the commute time was just under and hour in the morning with some traffic and usually 1 hr 15 minutes to 1.5 hrs in the evening depending on how bad that traffic was.  It really wasn’t that bad, and you kind of get used to it.  Adjust your schedule a little if you can to avoid traffic if there is any.  I’d just drive and sip my coffee until I made it in. 

I know people who drive 75 miles one way through some BAD traffic and it takes them about 1.5-2 hrs one way… I can’t even begin to imagine that.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My sister’s husband was in the Air Force, and they worked an hour and a half apart.  They bought a house in between, so that they both had to drive about an hour.  It was rough on him because he had to be there at 5 am, and she missed the college town she had lived (and still worked) in.  But they both did it.  For years.  We grew up in the country and my mother drove 45+ minutes to work everyday and I think she liked having the time alone.  In college I moved out of town into a valley and had to drive 45 minutes, and it made me late (I was in college so I wasn’t as concerned back then- so I guess I made myself late) but I actually enjoyed the time to drink coffee and relax on the drive.  I can see how it could be rough, but I think it is worth it if you love your job.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My morning commute is an hour or less on most days. There are the occasional days of accidents, stalled cars or whatever, but it’s really not that bad. I wouldn’t want to do a commute that too much longer than that, but an hour to a little over that really is doable. HTH!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I did. And don’t anymore. I moved in with DH when we were dating and it made my ride an hour and 10 minutes.  I didn’t mind at first. I got lots of books on CD’s and therefore, “read” all the time.  After a year or so it became a great annoyance.  I ended up switching jobs in order to be closer about 5 months ago.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I live 7.5 miles from the office. It takes me 45 minutes to an hour each way. Gotta love the NYC subway system!

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Sasha2011: hmmm, that’s a very good point.  They are all men that do the drive, and their wifes have a local job.  But I also work with 95% men so that definitely sways things.  I dont believe their choice to live where they are though was based on the wives job.  It was usually factors like proximity to parents, or for the neigborhood, or just where they could afford.  With the real estate market, prices around MA and with their families and lives in place already, it just isnt realistic (financially) to pick up and move to be near a job

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Sasha2011:

Ohhhh the 407 🙂 We’re anxiously awaiting it stretching a little further east to help FI’s commute.

I did it last year. We lived in the city, and I work 50 mins east of the city and I did it against traffic.

We are now east where I work and FI 407’s in, and 401’s home. We are about halfway North/South between both highways which is nice.

We have to plan our meals and I try to take the burden off him to run any weekday/night errands so he’s not in his car any longer than he has to be -he did that for me when it was the other way around.

He’s still home before me even with his city commute (he’s a teacher…done at 2:45!) so will sometimes do meals, but does a lot of coaching so often it’s me home first. We balance who cooks and save major cleaning/house chores for the weekends, and with him having to get up super early (often for coaching before work) I will take the dog for late night walks, get up and clean the car off for him, etc.

Our next move will be more west, we are going to compromise -maybe over time your FI will see that it makes the most sense to be more in the middle for both of you? Having kids someday is a big part of having a bit more balance in his distance to work.

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