Brides who are walking down the aisle without their father…

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Who walked you down the aisle?
    My father : (4 votes)
    7 %
    My mother : (14 votes)
    23 %
    Both parents : (0 votes)
    I walked by my sweet self : (23 votes)
    38 %
    FI walked me : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Other : (15 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Jenny905:  my mother walked me down the aisle, my father passed away when I was 13. If he was alive, he would have been the one to give me away. Or possibly both parents givr me away. 

    People thpught it was sweet given the situation.

     

    I think yu should do what makes you feel comfortable, dont worry about what other people will think. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Jenny905:  My father died when I was 3 years old; my mom never remarried.  She’s walking me down the isle- it’s not even a question.  We have a close relationship.  Don’t worry, do what you’re comfortabe with.  There are no rules that say you have to adhere to tradtional practices.  

    I might not even do a 1st dance…or the games.  It’s your and the FI’s day 🙂

    Post # 4
    Member
    1441 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Like previous posters, I lost my dad a number of years ago. I had my brother walk me down the aisle and my mom could not have been happier than to see her two kids walking  together. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    1788 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My FI and I walked down together. We thought it would be a good symbol of being on equal footing and in stride together on our way to the same goals.

    I considered having my mom walk me down, but aside from not being a fan of being delivered and handed off to my husband, I didn’t want to offend my stepfather, so I just bypassed the whole tradition. 

    ETA: to answer the last part of your question, no one mentioned it to us at all, but we did get lots of compliments on our ceremony and wedding in general, so I would say it was well-received. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    49 posts
    Newbee

    I’m not married or officially engaged yet, but I’m planning on my mum walking me down the isle. My dad left when I was 7, and while I’m still in contact with him and says he loves us/me, he hasn’t been a father to me, even when he was still with us. So I wouldn’t feel comfortable with him giving me away. My mum remarried this past March, and while I’m finally starting to adjust to the guy, I’m not close enough to him to consider that at all.

    So the obvious option would be my mom; no deciding between dad/step-dad, just the parent who truly gave everything, and raised and loved me. 🙂

    Post # 7
    Member
    600 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

    I have no relationship with my Dad. He is attending but I will be walking myself.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4894 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Both of my abusive parents are deceased so I walked myself down the aisle.  It felt perfectly natural to me.

    Except the deranged officiant hired by Dh refused to allow music during the ceremony so I had to walk in silence, which I couldn’t figure out.

    Post # 9
    Member
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I will have a nontraditional walk down the aisle.  At first I thought that I would walk alone, but now I’m leaning towards starting down the aisle alone, having FI meet me halfway up the aisle, then continuing the rest of the way together… just like in life *swoon*

    My poor mom can’t wrap her head around it and keeps suggesting that my stepfather or my brothers accompany me.  While I love them all dearly, doing the alternative walk down feels right to me

     

    Post # 10
    Hostess
    2787 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Jenny905:  whoever YOU want…Your FI family doesn’t have a say in who walks you because it’s personal, and they don’t know your life. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    15 posts
    Newbee

    I will be walking down myself. 

    My family dynamic is quite complicated and I’m not very close to either of my parents, although I am close with my brothers, but I have 3 and would hate to choose just one. 

    As as I started to think more about it, I realized that the tradition of being walked down the aisle is that you are being given away—a very archaic notion! I am a strong, independent woman and marrying my FI is my choice, I don’t need someone to give me to him. I make my own choices in life and the man I choose to be with has nothing to do with their approval!

    another added bonus, is that both sides can see me easily as I walk down the aisle. I’m sure it will look great in pictures!

     

    Good luck!

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My mother and her husband are walking me down the aisle. I don’t consider him to be my “dad” in any way. My biological father will be in attendance, but I rarely see him, so I didn’t feel like it was a moment he should have received.

    Post # 13
    Member
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’ve decided to walk down the aisle with my SO. I’m really close to both of my parents, who are still together, so it has nothing to do with that for me. My decision is really based on the fact that I don’t love the idea of being handed off by anyone to anyone. We’re really not traditional and this felt like a better fit. Like we’re walking into this decision together as equals. 

    It really depends on what you feel the most comfortable with.

    Post # 14
    Member
    8 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    At the moment, I’m considering walking down the aisle myself. I do have a younger brother who is close enough in age range who could possibly fill in the role. I always dreamed my father would, however my relationship is completely strained, and there is no way I want to bring that drama into the wedding. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    1622 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

    My DH walked in with me. We linked arms and walked in together. We forgot to warn the officiant of that little detail so she was taken back. It was perfect for us and really represented how we choose to walk through life together,  rather than handing our problems over. 

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