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i'm not having a shower, my friends want to throw me one, but i just dont want one... i just want to focus my energy time and money on one big day, rather than multiple showers and dinners.. i didnt have an engagement party, and am not having a rehearsal dinner[nothing against ppl who do want them but they are just not for me]just plain old wedding ceremony and reception for me.
We'll have a rehearsal luncheon (we're doing our rehearsal the day-of--can't get the venue the night before), but we didn't have an engagement party or anything, either.
I didn't have a shower... or a bachelorette! We wanted the wedding to be very low key and just the two of us, so aside from our witnesses, no one was involved in the ceremony (no bridal party). So no one thought of celebrating before the wedding.
That's fine, because before WB, I didn't know there were showers for weddings (I thought they were only for babies); and I'm not the bachelorette party type of gal. I would have loved it if my girlfriends would have invited me for dinner before the big day or something, but it didn't happen, so what are you going to do?!
I didn't have a shower, but that is mainly because I didn't want one. It is my second wedding and it just didn't feel right to me. I am having a b-party though, but that is only because I didn't have one the first time around and my MOH wants to throw me one bery badly!
I've been engaged since 2008. And no one has mentioned a shower to me at all! I'm sure they will have at least one for me though. I have a pretty big family. I don't really think they would say something until a little closer to the wedding.
I did not have, did not want one and vocalized it. We had a very small intimate wedding and only a 3 mth engagement, by choice I will say. Well the small, intimate wedding pissed some family off so really, I did not want to deal with them with a shower either. Showers are not really my thing anyways, I get really uncomfortable in large groups and attention.
I'm not one for big gatherings, either, but I guess I feel a little snubbed because no one in my family is really excited that we're getting married, lol.
i think its way too early for you to assume you won't get a shower or any other pre-wedding parties, so don't get bummed out yet! I know its really easy to think that no one gives a damn about your wedding/marriage, especially given how much time and money goes into planning one.
But It sounds like your family is pre-occupied with a sick family member right now, so that explains some of it. FYI, my shower plans started coming together only about 2 weeks before my actual shower date. Two weeks! For my actual wedding, people only got excited around the week of, and thats because people start arriving. So just try to remember that people are preoccupied with their own lives right now, but when your wedding date is much closer, people WILL be very excited and happy for you, I promise.
I didn't have a shower, but I don't understand why it's a big deal either. My sister made sure to have a bach. party when she came out and that was fun and small.
I didn't have one either. I'm the last to be married in my huge family; others had showers, but no one has offered to throw me one. I didn't think I cared, but when I hear of other brides having showers, I do feel the *tiniest* twinge of jealousy, which I would never admit except on here!
I almost didnt have a shower. Until a couple weeks before the wedding one had not been planned for me. We ended up having a mini shower that was combined with our nails appointment. It was 2 days before the wedding. Just my bridesmaids, aunts, grandma & cousins were there. MIL's flight got delayed and couldn't make it. I was bummed at first with not getting one but then grateful but upset it had to get thrown together at the last minute.
@TwinkleToesJMU: I hope you're right! My one cousin is having a baby soon, so now the family's all like babybabybaby and it's SO annoying because I don't want kids--and their attitude is that if I'm not going to reproduce, I am nowhere near as important. (This isn't an exaggeration--an aunt basically told me that once.) They weren't excited when we got engaged, either, so I hope they're at least excited for the wedding...
I didn’t have one, and wasn’t disappointed (I didn’t want one), so I don’t know how much help I will be!!
One thing I will say though, is don’t assume that your family aren’t excited because they don’t throw you a shower. My mom isn’t “girly” (we didn’t cry when we bought my dress, she didn’t throw me a shower, didn’t cry at the wedding, etc.), but she is super excited I am married! If it’s not their personalities to throw parties, and your friends/family are not that social, it might not really occur to them to throw one for you – but it doesn’t mean they are not happy for you! :-)
If it means a lot to you – I might casually mention it to a couple of your friends, and see what they say.
My BMs have offered throw me a shower, I'm not having one out of choice. I really don't like attending showers and I don't care about getting gifts.
There's still over a year until your wedding, so don't get too discouraged at this point! :)
My wedding was across the country in my hometown so I wasn't home that often. I tried to hint towards it when I knew I was going to be home for my friends wedding about 6 months before my wedding... but in the end it didn't work out.
We aren't having a shower. We have both lived on our own for years and I feel it would be more of a gift-grab as we have the items most young couples starting out don't have.
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I'm wondering how many Bees didn't have a bridal shower, for whatever reason. I don't think my family really cares enough to throw me one (sad, but true--and the few relatives who do give a damn that we're getting married are too busy and stressed taking care of my sick Grandma, etc.), and I can't see any of my bridesmaids or MOH throwing me one since they're not really that social and don't like big gatherings.
I'm a little bummed, but what can you do? I realize that we're still a year and some odd months out, but there has been no mention of anything whatsoever. The second my cousins got engaged, there was immediately talk of throwing a shower for the brides, even when they were 2+ years away. Bah. Such is life.
Anyway, who didn't have a shower? Did you choose not to, or did no one throw one? How'd you deal with the disappointment?