Brides who eloped or are eloping without any family at all, i have questions!

posted 2 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

i don’t have any advice, but this was our original plan and i wish we would have stuck with it.  since telling my parents/family this was our plan, they acted like they really wanted to be there – so we changed our minds and decided on a wedding in our new home state.  now, no one is excited but we’re too far out in planning we can’t back out now.

 

so anyway, if this is what you want – do it.

Post # 4
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1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We are eloping to City Hall.  We told everyone not to be shocked if we just run off and get married, which has been our plan all along, anyway.  Our parents told us that they were perfectly fine with whatever decisions we made when it came to getting married.  When asked, we tell people we’re not sure when we’re going to get married as, after all, eloping is running off as a spur of the moment thing and not a planned event.

We’re not having any showers, bachelor/ette parties, receptions, post-elopement parties, etc. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  Ellicott.
Post # 6
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

SkinnyLatte17:  honestly, if this is what you really want, then please, do it.  

 

we were planning on going to italy and eloping there, and doing our honeymoon at the same time.  i always said… my perfect wedding day would be eating a nice, relaxed breakfast with my soon-to-be-husband before getting married, enjoying a nice meal and then relaxing for the next week.  man, i wish we would have went that road sometimes.

 

best of luck to you. i know how hard it is to make this decision and deal with the comments from family (i apaprently couldn’t deal with it and caved! lol).  our wedding will be amazing with family + friends, but man, the planning process would have been a lot less stressful if we went our original route.

Post # 7
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1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Our parents were a little bummed, but in the end they were totally supportive. My mom paid for our entire trip, and his parents showed up before we left and gave us a huge gift basket for the trip. We took lots of pictures and everyone was happy in the end. I have such great memories of just the two of us at such a special time. I don’t regret it one tiny bit. 

Post # 8
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1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

SkinnyLatte17:  Destination wedding. 

When I’ve mentioned to friends and other family members that we might just elope, we’ve yet to encounter any negativity.  Everyone’s thought it’s a cool thing to do and oh, so romantic. Most have said that it would not surprise them to hear that we just up and got married one day. Haha!  <br /> 

Post # 9
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4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

SkinnyLatte17:  I’d be lying if I said all of our family was totally fine with it after we announced we went to the coast by ourselves and eloped, they weren’t. But, they all got over it in time. The fact of the matter is, we were worrying a lot more about our guests during wedding planning and began to steer away from what the focus should have been-us. After all, that’s what the wedding was for. <br /><br />Did we upset some people? Yep. Do either of us regret it? Not in the least. In fact, we regretted ever spending time planning the wedding instead of just running off on our own! It was so romantic to have those few days after to ourselves on the Oregon Coast as husband and wife without the whole world knowing it. We were in our own little universe, it was amazing! <br /><br />Given the choice, I’d choose eloping again over a big, fancy wedding any day. I still wore my dream dress, we still got married at our dream venue (on the beach), and I still got to marry my best friend. Best day ever!

Post # 12
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23 posts
Newbee

We are doing this.

We were going to Europe to meet some of our closest friends there next year anyway – so now we are getting married in Italy to kick off the holiday. 

My parents were fine – but that is mainly because they don’t want us to spend lots of money on a big wedding. And they aren’t contributing financially.

Havent told my partners family yet. We don’t want other people there so we don’t want To give them too much time to dwell on it. Might tell them a month or so out. But we have said from the beginning that we are unlikely to have a wedding so I don’t think they will be surprised. i think they want a party they can go to but they aren’t at all interested in us getting married or helping us put on a wedding – so we aren’t concerned if they don’t have a good reaction. 

Good luck! How exciting!

I sometimes have doubts about what we are doing. But I know I won’t enjoy a big party that is all about me. And then I just goggle pictures of weddings on the amalfi and I remember why we are doing this! 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

Both sets of our parents had very simple marriage ceremonies, so they are all fine with our plan for a private ceremony this winter. If the parents wanted to come, it would be fine, but there’s always a chance that winter precipitation would hinder travel plans. Where we live it is VERY cold in winter. Of course, we are also having a small celebration with family and friends in the spring where we will re-enact our wedding vows so they don’t feel left out. It’s the best of both worlds for us.

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